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Neither partner, male or female, should have the 'power' to 'grant' sex.
It should be something desired to be shared by both people.
Or at least physically just wanted by both people, consciously and consentually.
Not one trying to "get" it from the other who has pwer to "give" it. By your own logic, some poor idiotic chick who ever liked you must have thought you had the 'power' to 'grant' her sex.
Get over your own bitterness, please, and stop making assumptions that everyone else is as bitter as you.