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It seems that you're worried about sincerity then--about women really understanding what the world is like for men, and men really understanding what the world is like for women, and neither trying to claim victimhood status over the other as a gender but only in specific cases where it would be justified. OK, I can agree with that. But I would maintain that, if a man accepts your view of the asymmetry between male and female desires (big demand, small offer), then the 'right' thing to do would also be to stop complaining about it, since it is simply a normal, expectable consequence of the law of offer and demand plus your view of the gender asymmetry.