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Indeed, let's not make this a war between the sexes. But looking around, looking at the many complaints from both sides, looking at the scars that come up even in places like this letter thread--is there a way to avoid it? Maybe the next generation. Maybe after people stop feeling confused by the idea and (still clumsy) practice of gender equality. But right now? Maybe unavoidable.
My hope is that kryptogal and closetnerd are right--that most people do eventually grow mature and figure this stuff out, while those who keep complaining remain an immature minority. I sometimes wonder, though.
Nice post anyway. Keep up the good work!