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• Saturday, November 22, 2008 03:44 PM

  How can there NOT be genuine nice guys who are also socially unskilled?

  I have said that I used to be a nice guy, but people keep thinking I make this stuff up.

  I was the proverbial Catholic altar boy. I was raised to be polite to women. yada yada

  I was most definitely not given the social skills nor did I pick them up, that would have enabled me to express interest in a woman that I wanted to try to get to know.

  In high school, the girls I dated, including my steady, asked ME out. I never did any of the asking.

  I was apparently hot looking, at least to some segment of women, from all the comments I get about my past photos.

  More than one girlfriend has remarked that I had one of the nicest personalities of any guy they knew.

  None of this, NONE OF IT, helped me when I actually had to begin doing the heavy lifting of pursuing those girls I DID want.

  It is one thing to stand there and talk to a girl as a friend, I mean WHAT ELSE does a naive guy know but to do that with any girl he really likes.

  Next thing I know, I find out the OPPOSITE is really the truth, that if the relationship does not begin early on, BEFORE a friendship blooms, you can kiss THAT situation goodbye.

  So, SUDDENLY, I am branded a dishonest chap for NOT having known the secret kabuki rituals that women take for granted that all guys know.

  Worse yet, I look back on past interactions with women who I actually DID want and who actually DID give me signals they also wanted me, and feel remorse that I had NOT been taught how girls do things in life.

  Heck, had I tried to turn the interaction into a relationship, I would have fucked up over and over and probably caused the situation to become unsalvageable-- gradually losing my esteem and cool in the process.

  SO, for women to trash pick up artist books is to tell otherwise good men that they should remain completely powerless and let the TRUE SKEEVES, the ones who spend all their time figuring out schemes to get at women (for the men's selfish needs), have the field remain open to ONLY them-- and maybe this is darwinism at its finest.

  —Brightstar 2 - The Resurrection Read Brightstar 2 - The Resurrection's other letters
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