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Yes, you are. But it is okay to judge. :) Look at the way they look and are dressed as a form of truth in advertising. Things only go wrong if people misread each other's visual signals.
One no doubt frustrating way that this happens is when a woman is very curvy. It is disgusting when women are treated as whores just because they have big breasts for instance. A skinny near chestless woman can wear the same outfit and not get treated that way.
Life is unfair.