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• Thursday, November 20, 2008 12:53 PM

  ***WHERE IS THE BROADSHEET ROUNDTABLE???***

  Seriously -- you bring out all your writers to discuss Michelle Obama's butt, or to give your reaction to an SNL sketch, so why not this?

  What do YOU think, Tracy Clark-Flory? Sarah Hepola? Rebecca Traister? Catherine Price? Everybody else...

  You're all for equality of the sexes, you're all for feminism, equal pay for equal work, and all that good stuff (which I assume the rest of us are all for too).

  So.... On a date, do you find it tacky if the man does not pay? Or at least curious? Questionable? Worrisome? Irksome?

  Doors opened for you: A good thing? A requirement? Notable if not done?

  Phone calls and plans: Who makes them? Is a man less attractive if he lets you call more of the shots? Do you prefer the man to be the aggressor/pursuer? Do you prefer to send out cues and signals and let the men chase you, rather than doing the chasing?

  Marriage: A worthy goal? A goal at all? Kids, family, a cohesive monogamous long-term setup? (I chose the word "setup" because at first I was going to say "unit," but decided it would sound too phallic, so then I was going to say "package," and that made it worse...)

  Do you want to be treated like a princess? (I had a girlfriend say that to me before: "Treat me like a princess!")

  What is the correct, modern, feminist girl/boy way? (I sure as heck don't know.)

  This is jumping a bit off-the-subject, but it's related: What's your view of alimony, especially in the absence of children, or after children have turned 18? Eradicate alimony laws? Make them equal? Make them dependent on income? Or what?

  —Xrandadu Hutman Read Xrandadu Hutman's other letters
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