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A guy can be bright, buff, beautifully handsome, funny and extremely nice and sensitive, but, often this is still not good enough. If the woman you have set your sights on recently broke up with a tall guy and you are tall, you havn't got a chance. Also, if she's in some kind of independent phase in her life, and you are nice to her, she may give you the brush off, because she's looking for a brief hookup with an asshole. This is why some guys suspend the Mister Nice-guy persona, and just play the numbers game, meet as many women as they can, and a certain per centage will fall their way. It may be cold and ruthless but it works, and there's less hurt involved. The nice thing about women is that they really seem to know what and who turns them on. When they've made up their mind, that's it, but heaven help you if she thought you were like some wonderful Sergio in her past, but you turn out to be just plain Bill, and very different from Sergio.
Then, you're done.
Once you've learned to do what drives most women crazy in and out of the bedroom, you've got it made. This means you must first learn to really enjoy your life, so you can be light hearted and confident, which then makes you a veritable chick magnet. And then, after you've figured what drives them into escatic flights of pleasure, you will have a pretty good time enjoying friendships with the opposite sex.
Ducks? Well, women are like ducks because different women imprint on different kinds of men at different times in their lives. You can have the wildest sense of humor in the world. Some women will love that. Another type might easily take offense and want to pick apart your jokes or gags or ironic remarks, and you're done before you start with them. If you are dark, they may like light. If you are skinny, they may like snuggly heavy guys. Don't take it personally. If you like to look people in the eyes and hold their gaze, some women will immediately undress, and others will find you terribly intrusive. You may meet a perfectly lovely female, but if she's not at a place in her life to have a relationship, you are wasting your time. It's time to move on.
