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. . . which is why all the rational, sensible suggestions here ("be yourself", "be considerate and she will be too", etc.) will not work necessarily, or even most of the time.
All I know is: at age 30 I decided to be more selfish, less patient, and more demanding. I never became an actual "asshole" -- that is beyond my abilities.
Before that, I generally was the pursuer, the women I ended up with were so-so, and (in legal terms) I was almost always the "dumpee" rather than the "dumpor".
After -- women came to *me*, they were way hotter and more devoted, and I never got dumped. Not once. It was I who would call things off.
