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The community, as it were, is providing the nice guys who you'd like to meet an avenue to make this happen.
No, it is not.
I don't want to meet a man who's idea of being a nice guy is sucking up to hot chicks in order to get into their pants. I don't want men who think being a nice guy is befriending a hot chick with the ultimate end of making her obligated to have sex with him because he was "such a nice guy and helped her out so much". End of story.
What the women here are trying to tell you is that there's a whole world out there full of women who are, for the most part, invisible to you and who's needs in relationships are completely different from what you're describing in the women you know. However, I'm no longer convinced that it's in anyone's best interests for you to know that, including that of the women trying to tell you.
Go back to HCwDB and meditate on it, really give it some time. Do you want the kind of women on their arms? Then be that kind of man. And you're right, being nice, respectful, clean-cut and with a moderate income is not going to get you Maxim-quality women. This is not feminism's fault, nor is the fault of women in general. You're catering to the tastes of a specific subset of the population. That's all.
Also, don't expect it to work on any random woman who catches your eye. My own version of "doing something" in this situation is to shut down, sharply and firmly, any Community-style tactics that get used on me. Believe it or not, it doesn't work on all women, at the very least because not all women are just dying to be hit up for a phone number by a total stranger. Yes, the attempt itself makes you look like a douche, no matter who's method you're using.
There are also a large number of us who still believe that the library is for checking out books, the grocery store is for shopping, and the bar at Happy Hour is for trying to hook up. If you want a phone number, go there. If you can't get the phone number of the woman you want because she doesn't go to the club, bringing the club to her is not the answer.
