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• Wednesday, July 8, 2009 02:16 PM

  I have more questions than responses. :-(

  1) Why on EARTH would Matt Smith reveal Mz Berlin's real name when she requested anonymity? That was an egregious lapse in professionalism. It sounds like an act of petty revenge on Mr. Smith's part.

  2)Why did Mz Berlin's amicable relationship with her ex-husband deteriorate after she was "outed" in SF Weekly? I almost feel as if something has been left out of the narrative. How amicable were they before the interview? If the ex knew she was doing porn, why did the "scope" of it bother him enough to erase her right to visitation? Under what conditions did the ex have full custody in the first place and why will he only allow visitation if she moves back to LA? I feel badly for her, but it doesn't sound as if she was completely honest about her profession with her ex spouse.

  3)I assume Mz Berlin's face is visible in her films. Wouldn't she be physically recognizable to her fans anyway? I completely commiserate with her on her loss of privacy, but wouldn't performing in pornographic films also expose her to public attention regardless of whether her legal name was publicly known or not? If she has chosen such a visible profession, shouldn't she expect an equal loss of privacy extending, unfortunately, to her son?

  I certainly believe a pornographic actress is capable of being a worthy parent in theory, but I would also assume that said actress would understand that the nature of her profession would require an advanced level of parenting skills that the average 9-to-5 parent would have to face. If Mz Berlin is frightened for her safety because her fans now know who she is, that might be a sign that she hasn't completely considered all the possible consequences of enjoying a pornographic career. I would never fault her for being a porn actress, but I do question how well she has thought about how her profession could impact her family life. Unfortunately, all working women have to make conscientious decisions about our careers, particularly about how our careers could possibly impact our families. I fail to understand why Mz Berlin didn't make the same considerations.

  —Assezmalicieuse Read Assezmalicieuse's other letters
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