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that these women want to be free from feminist scrutiny? And why should they be afraid of feminist scrutiny? Because feminists, believe that women are capable of, and should be doing, the same kind of work men do. And as a result, we see men as our equals, we know what they're going through, we know what it's like to watch a career you've been working on for so long, that's such a huge part of your identity, disintegrate with the economy.
Dare I say we actually have more in common with financial guys than these spoiled little princesses (in the detested Midwest, where being consigned is apparently a fate worse than death, we call 'em Trixies).
And *we're* the man-haters?
Oh, I know it's complicated and hard when your significant other suffers a career-related identity breakdown, because suddenly a great deal of what he is, or what you've always known him as--what he's known himself as--is gone. That does put stress on a relationship. And I guess I'm a little old-fashioned in some ways--I don't expect a man to be a provider, but given the fact that he was already born with all the privileges that come with male genitalia, for which so many of us women have to struggle and prove ourselves over and over, I do expect him to pull his own weight. But I'm just hoping that these support groups, nauseating as they sound, don't just become places for these women to whine and drink girly cocktails--maybe having gotten it out of their system, some of them will be able to grow up and become companions and partners, rather than pampered little lapdogs.
