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Sunday, Nov 8, 2009
So what? You don't want to date. N = 1.
but now that this is no longer true there is no justification, other than that of raw power, for this being the case.
Thanks for the info, now will you PLEASE instruct all the women out there, uh in here, going on about how women want it as bad as men, etc. to STOP LYING? Please explain to them that, yes SOME may, but given the MANY WOMEN LIKE YOU and the FEW MEN LIKE YOU there is a huge imbalance of interest and therefore many more opportunities for the women who are interested. Coming from you it will presumably not be taken as the ravings of a bitter woman hater.
How should I know if other women are lying?
You don't either.
However, I would say that the sexual experience for women is probably vastly different than the sexual experience for men -- judging by letters written to Broadsheet.
Lots of things some men did managed to turn me off between the first meeting and somewhere down the road -- down the road meaning decision time.
I will say this: I believe women are more particular than men. We are fussier about manners. Many of us are fussier about cleanliness and grooming. I, speaking only for myself, am turned off by public cussing, cheap tippers, and men with bellowing voices. Men who take up what is more than is reasonable of their share of space or more than their share of the pie. Men who try to boss me around or push me around. Men who are harsh on their children (big red flag!) and talk hatefully about every past woman in their lives. (I also don't like female friends who back stab and gossip about their other friends.)
I always wanted someone who was FAIR in sharing household chores. I never met a single man that I thought would be. Instead, I met lots of men who wanted women to all the traditional things that women used to do AND STILL WORK OUTSIDE THE HOME.
Not being a fool, I decided to live a life that was more to my advantage. I have surely gotten lots of reading done.
If you are right and men want sex more than women do, that's men's problem, isn't it?
BECAUSE THE ONLY WAYS THAT MEN CAN CAUSE WOMEN TO HAVE SEX WITH THEY DON'T WANT TO ARE TWO: PURCHASE AND RAPE. One is illegal many places and the other both illegal and unconscionable.
We don't live in the jungle anymore.
I'm willing to bet:
Women want sex as much as men do.
They just don't want to be viewed as a walking dick holder. Even in the enlightened 21st-c-west, women who are too free with sex are viewed as lesser human beings, useful for scratching an itch, but otherwise deserving of contempt. Which means women typically want sex *and* some emotional attachment.
(And I can't imagine the jealous types who troll here being okey-dokey with a world full of "easy women." They want women to be "easy" with them, but I suspect they'd prefer chastity with regards to other men).
Talk to your therapist!
@Juliebird: No, we'd be perfectly happy if there were loose women all around.
She is not his wife, and the amount of money seems to exceed the gift limit -- and she admits this is a working relationship -- she is stupid for trying to capitalize this -- because if she has unreported income, she is in for a nasty tax bill, and fines.
It seems that some women regard it as a problem too, hence the desire to regulate the behavior of consenting adults in ways that would be considered absurd in any other context.
There is for instance the example of gay men. Among them, so I hear, everybody fucks everybody they like and when and if people find each other particularly interesting for whatever reason they may become more exclusive on that basis if they are so inclined. I suspect that men would be inclined to relate to women in a similar way given a lack of other constraints.
but if this "system" were used where women were involved many would opt out if they couldn't get "good" men. Oh, wait..
I am not just thinking of STDs.
When I was a freshman in high school, there was this girl who mentioned that her father was having sex with her. She was wrong-side-of-tracks sort of girl. Already, she had been picked on. She mentioned this to another girl in study hall who quickly spread the word.
One of the boys on the football team asked this girl out, but instead of taking her on a date, he took her out to the country where most of the football team raped her. Nothing was ever done to these boys. Indeed, her social status was so low that they didn't even think that they had committed rape. They bragged about her crying and told horrible stories about her. They said that roaches came out of her clothes.
Just by confiding that her father had molested her this girl was perceived to have advertised sexual availability.
Girls without fathers in the home, girls of lower social status, girls who were not white were all perceived to be sexually "looser" with no evidence whatsoever. (Note that Parson Jim uses the word loose, a perjorative term.)
When a very popular boy in our school, Frank, broke up with Betty Sue and went out with a "Mexican" girl, he was considered to lose status and be shamed -- until he announced that she put out for him. Thus, he regained social status. It was assumed that Betty Sue was a "nice" girl and wouldn't have sex with him. All of a sudden, Patsy, the Hispanic girl, was shamed. It went all around school that she was a slut.
There is a Southern writer whose name escapes me who wrote a long story called "The Old Forest" I believe who wrote about privileged upper class boys who dated poor girls and felt no compunction about seducing those girls but saved girls of their own class for marriage.
As a single mother I was aware that my behavior not only set an example for my daughter but could also put her at risk. Daughters of divorced women are five times more likely to be molested by men coming into the home than those of intact families.
I was also aware that should my ex-husband challege me for custody that my sexual behavior would be scrutinized in a way that my ex-husband's would not.
When I was a girl, I was quite aware that my own father and other men viewed women who were divorced as sexually available. There was something in their tone of voice when they spoke of a newly divorced woman. Something almost predatory. They did not speak of widows in that manner.
I still don't know why divorced women were called grass widows.
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