Site Presented By
Sunday, Nov 8, 2009
I can assure you that the insurance tables, and even you, would consider her fat.
So what's up with that? It sounds almost like a relationship. If what men are really seeking is variety, why the repeat customers?
Probably a case of different strokes for different folks. It may be a bit like going to the same barber for a haircut 100 times, if it is just a comfortable ritual. He may get to like her and enjoy her company even if the sex is not the only thing. He can also talk to her about all kinds of personal revelations and sexual topics that maybe he can't discuss elsewhere, so it may be therapeutic and relaxing to have this secret, alternate life.
Also note that in the US (was this study in the US?) prostitution is not legal (except Nevada brothels) and so a man is at some legal risk on the first encounter with a new paid partner. Once he has been with her once, he is home free, so to speak as far as her being a police decoy, and if she delivers what he is looking for from the get go, then returning is easy and risk free. If he is married, this is particularly important.
Paul Theroux's book My Secret History is an interesting example of a behind-the-scenes look at a man's sex life.
How does calling someone a whore advance feminism? Follow up: what's wrong with being a whore, if you want to, anyway?
Next, let's talk 18th century England. Marriages were arranged based on status and wealth. Jane Austen wrote like 50 zillion books about it, and my ex-gf made me watch all the movies.
Not every woman was unhappy with the arrangement, some women liked status and wealth, and agreed happily to marriage based purely on those attributes. Were they whores?
What we have here is a -major- inconsistency. Gathered in Broadsheet and any other places from which they emerge are as scabrous a collection of verbal trolls (We'll ignore Dick's non-bathing habits for the moments) as I have ever seen. The people to whom I'm referring include a few Men's Rights Activists who are so sour I'm certain they fellate lemons, a few Aunts (if you've read THE HANDMAID'S TALE), some of the "oh, aren't I edgy" types...and people who have theories about women, feminism, and sexuality that, essentially, attack women past the level of morality down to the chromosomal level. Some of it's projection, some of it is legal, sexual and financial frustration, and some of it is just plain nuts.
And against that, you say "don't be condescending."
In other words, a group of which I'm a part can be utterly vilified and that's okay. But let me go verbally aggressive, and that's condescending.
In short, women can be trashed, but the Kzin had better be polite.
That's as good as trying to sell a New Yorker the Brooklyn Bridge or catching any one of us in the Nigerian e-mail scams...
Wait a minute...TELL me that you didn't...oh nooooooo
Marriages were arranged based on status and wealth. Jane Austen wrote like 50 zillion books about it, and my ex-gf made me watch all the movies.
More like 4 novels published in her lifetime, 2 posthumously, and one left unfinished at her death, plus a couple of fragments and some juvenilia.
Of course every woman's romance novel written ever since is, to some extent, the progeny of Jane Austen, and perhaps this is what is referred to.
Your free to jump into the mud with the pigs with both feet. Just don't pretend your any different then.
"If neither sex ever engaged in sex without love, you can be sure that the human race would become extinct in approximately three generations, because no one would ever have sex to find out whatt all the fuss was about, so many would remain virgins, nearly all one-night-stands would fail the test except in cases of love at first sight, and because 95% of marital sex would be eliminated."
I disagree with this assessment....I also think the number of social ills that the world must deal with would drop considerably by eliminating unwanted babies and fatherless children. It's not like we have a shortage of people.
"Don't get me wrong. When sex and love do coincide it is nice, but they are not necessary for each other. I love my wife and I have sex with her, but the actual sex is not necessarily any different from sex with a woman I don't love"
Just WOW ! The reason I married my wife was because I loved her and the sex I had with her was COMPLETELY different than sex I had with women I did not love. In fact, that's what turned me off about having freely available sex without an emotional connection, to me, it was no different than masturbating .
A study by Dieter Kleiber said that there was a sort of romantic john who was seeking "the ideal of love in a fee-for-service setting."
This makes sense then. Maybe I ought to begin looking at this model.
Being with a woman 24/7/365 is annoying as fuck-- I don't know how people do it.
So when guys say they pay a prostitute to go away, I can see how they mean "to go away for a while and not constantly be in my face", at least until the next time the man feels like engaging in some relationship.
I would love to find someone who has her own place, her own life, but also wants an ongoing relationship and does not want to turn it into a stifling crush of constantly being in each others' faces.
Someday someone ought to do a study on what happens to these women -- follow them for a number of years. I would bet that violence, drugs, or mental illness gets a lot of them.
If society is going to constantly coddle women and support them through every decision, then apply the same principal to MEN too.
What happens to men who are unceremoniously dumped by their wives? What happens to men who are lonely because they were never taught how to engage a woman?
None of this matters to women of course. Women have no concern or care for men.
IN A SOCIETY OF EQUALITY you women better begin to step up and make these things happen. There is no excuse.
It is either this, or continue to be prepared to have feminism be assaulted more and more as a fraud.
Much of the initial coverage about Fort Hood turned out to be wrong. Is there anything wrong with that?
The accountability imposed by another country for the CIA's kidnapping and torture reveals much about our own.
Fox News' morning show plays to type, talking about whether Muslims in the Army should face "special debriefings"
The survivor and author is upset about comparisons some on the right are making to genocide
Once seen as a lunatic fringe, reactionary anti-women groups are courting respectability
Salon headlines in your mailbox
