Site Presented By
Sunday, Nov 8, 2009
And women who demand that the man not be a foot shorter than them, or for that matter demand that he bathe regularly, are equivalently obsessed with the "packaging" and not the truuuue soul, etc. It is understood of course that the preferences motivated by instinct of women are inherently benign and the preferences motivated by instinct of men are inherently sinister and exploitive but lets at least be honest about what we think, OK?
I was going to point out her fallacious arguments, then I figured it was too obvious.
bathing was hygiene.
This arrangement seems to me to be closer to a "kept woman" than a traditional prostitute, even a high class one. The difference, I think, is that a "kept woman" has a relationship with only one man while prostitutes in general typically have more than one client.
that is kind of the point, it's nuts to fight nature. Control and channel maybe, but not declare war against. Obviously there is something less than universal consensus which is which and one of the big reasons for this lack of agreement is hormonal.
I know it feels pretty repetitive sometimes but as long as there is so much resistance to these basic facts what else is there to do.
First, he cannot read, or he would realize the stuff I said about men responding to packaging was essentially no different from the stuff I said about women responding to packaging.
Packaging is packaging. Responding to it may not be good or bad but just human. To be silly is to be human.
Second, he lives is with a woman who would not be considered fat by the insurance tables but whom he nags constantly (even to the point of verbal abuse) about her weight.
Third, he doesn't like bathing, so he actually stinks.
This is not a pretty picture. I am very sad for them.
These "relationships" have always existed. I have female relatives who have basically admitted to partaking in such dealings. When you're broke and there's not much economic opportunity or state dole to fall back on, if you meet an older man who's willing to pay your rent and pay for your food and take you out on a nice evening out - there's not much choice. And what if the guy treats you nicely - no abuse, no belittling?
Doing it for rent or doing it for fancy shoes and clothes or doing it for adventure? If no one's forcing her to do it, can someone exploit themselves? The countless men and women throughout the ages who have "married well" - and make no mistake about it - their clear intention and main motivation in life was to marry a wealthy and secure person - are they all whores?
If no one's being forced in to it, and no one's being beaten or tortured or robbed - who cares?
If I'm dating two attractive, funny women - one of which is filthy rich and the other is poor, I like them equally - if I choose to marry the rich one because frankly my life would be filled with comfort and fun and I'd be able to provide some measure of support for my loved ones (assuming my rich girlfriend is generous) - then am I a whore?
And Dick (appropriate name, if it's really his) would do anything to get laid but BATHE.
Didn't I say this place needed deodorizing?
Guys, you could climb Everest if you could get up it , and you still wouldn't be smart enough or tough enough to talk over AKA Smith's head.
Get used to it, because you show no signs of getting over yourselves.
I sure hope she's developing some other marketable skills. One can't be young and hot forever.
"Why is it only women who are harshly judged if they engage in sex for reasons other than love? Why do we not harshly judge men who engage in sex without love or the expectation of love?"
I find it hard to believe the majority of men don't feel the same way as I do on this subject. I hate to judge people at all, but I believe that men who engage in sex without love are NO different than women who engage in sex without love. I guess it's just the way I was brought up. And I have to continue remind people I am not a republican fundie...how sad is that ? Democrats are no longer allowed to believe in morals and family, no wonder we only win elections every 3rd cycle.
PS...I get it that teenage boys think the guy getting laid regularly is "all that", but by college I had already dropped that notion.
No need to be so condescending Dr.
but it's slightly more 'monogamous' prostitution than a girl who works the streets.
but make no mistake - it's a business deal - money for booty.
then the question from there is, do we as a society have a problem with that?
me personally? not really, even though i've never used a prostitute in my life. but i'm charming, i have a values system, a certain amount of musical talent, so i get good loving! (and i'm not by any means stereotypically handsome.)
but again, make no mistake, what seems like a 'great business deal' to a hot to trotter girl in her 20s is probably going to feel a whole lot more strange at 40. maybe she can live with it and still feel a sense of pride and self. or maybe not.
I find it hard to believe the majority of men don't feel the same way as I do on this subject. I hate to judge people at all, but I believe that men who engage in sex without love are NO different than women who engage in sex without love.
If neither sex ever engaged in sex without love, you can be sure that the human race would become extinct in approximately three generations, because no one would ever have sex to find out whatt all the fuss was about, so many would remain virgins, nearly all one-night-stands would fail the test except in cases of love at first sight, and because 95% of marital sex would be eliminated.
Don't get me wrong. When sex and love do coincide it is nice, but they are not necessary for each other. I love my wife and I have sex with her, but the actual sex is not necessarily any different from sex with a woman I don't love, because when people who don't love each other have sex they engage in a kind of method acting that includes displays of affection, kindness, humor, and so on, the only difference being that the feeling is purely temporary, whereas "love" assumes that the relationship is ongoing and that one will have to celebrate her birthday, her mother's birthday, and everything else that is important to her.
Much of the initial coverage about Fort Hood turned out to be wrong. Is there anything wrong with that?
The accountability imposed by another country for the CIA's kidnapping and torture reveals much about our own.
Fox News' morning show plays to type, talking about whether Muslims in the Army should face "special debriefings"
The survivor and author is upset about comparisons some on the right are making to genocide
219 Democrats and one Republican join in favor of the legislation, which passed by a narrow margin
Salon headlines in your mailbox
