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For one thing, this is an age and generational issue as well.
But the myth that brightstar and others put forth, namely that women can have it whenever they want, and guys are never in demand unless they are Brad Pitt, is utter bull.
Among the 30 to 40 something men I know, this is what I see. The looker men get all the sex they want, women lined up around the block. Of course these men use women like kleenex, does not seem to slow the line any. (I would not want this, by the way, only some more and better quality choices in women IN A SOCIETY where people still valued more than mere sport fucking, like actually sticking it out with one person and working thru the difficult times together)
Among the women I know, unless they are sticks in the mud, they get all the offers they want, and they can indulge those offers if they are not hyper discriminating about the men they bed.
I see young women put out "I'm available!" signals all day long, and guys don't respond.
Righto. I figured out finally a decade of so ago what is going on here.
Guys are DENSE. Our emotive and communicative systems do not work like they do in you women. You women hop out of the womb in a hyper sensitive state of emotional connection and communication. Guys are BLIND. They have to learn these social signals, it is not bred into most guys. I wish this core fact was taught in school. I wish guys were taught the subtle signals women put out. But this is a two sided sword, the moment guys are taught the signals, this leaves women more vulnerable to the asshole men who take any opportunity to find women to take advantage of.
I know countless girls who "hooked up" with guys in order to get him to like her, only to be discarded the next day.
I CANNOT BELIEVE you say this with a straight face. Since when did it become outmoded to get to know the fucking guy!!!
If men refuse to bother with girls to get to know them, one of two things is happening.
A. Men do not care to know women anymore, which frankly does not surprise me, considering how high feminists have ratcheted up the level of expectation of what guys are supposed to do and be if they are to remain in the pure and holy company of women. So men then just USE women for the sex and move on, knowing the alternative is an endless minefield of secret expectation women place on the men. So if men have settled merely on getting their sex fix, there is no need for getting to know women beyond this.
B. Women are chasing the wrong guys, AS ALWAYS. Since many guys DO want to know women as more than sex toys, it is obvious that what is happening is EXACTLY what ALL guys encounter when they are not on top of The Game, or even have any knowledge of it. That is that guys with no game SEEM suddenly repulsive and needy seeming to women. GUYS CANNOT WIN. Either we know the game and do not put up with any shit from you women, or else we are needy lonely chumps falling into an ever worsening spiral of self defeat, never knowing there is a game, much less how to play it. WOMEN do not bother to even try to figure out what is going on, merely standing there with their thumb up their butt, putting out weak FEMALE DEFINED symbols which have no connection to anything in real life and which, frankly, will only attract sharks anyway, since sharks are only ones bothering to learn the signals.
Most women (and I'm willing to bet, most men), don't just want sex. They want sex with someone they like, who likes them. You want to find a woman? Be nice to her. That's all most of these young women want.
Give it up. Women are the worst advice givers. 'Be nice' is crap. 'Be DESIRABLE and treat her like more than dirt' is better and more accurate advice. You tell a guy to be nice and he saws off any rough spots he had, making him an undesirable eunuch to the women.
The problem is not men finding women, the men that can, do, the men that cannot, will not be able to until they learn the GAME.
As for women finding men, MEN are everywhere. Somehow, it never fails to impress me how some women are marrying and carrying on well into their sixties, on their fifth and sixth marriages. NEVER AT A LOSS for a guy to take them out for a good time. You women would do well to study what some of these women have or do. I mean, many of these women resemble Ernest Borgnine, so it is obviously NOT the looks. So what is it??
