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• Saturday, December 6, 2008 08:45 AM

  BSG needs to let it go..

  Brightstar, why do you and your supposed ilk get the corner on sexual frustration?

  I have seen what it's like out there on all sides. I was always a very thin female until my early 20s, when I went on medication that made me fat fat fat. I eventually went off the meds and it took me about two years to shed those pounds.

  When I was fat, no man even LOOKED at me, much less propositioned me. I was really horny too -- but nope, no sex for that fat woman! And no, I never went to a massage parlor for women for a "happy ending" (hmm -- wonder how many of those really exist?)

  I lived in sexual obscurity until I lost the weight. I am sure that the men who ignored me completely would like a huge lecture on why they did not find me attractive when I was 200 pounds. Or maybe I should lecture the numerous men who hit on me when I was 12-15 years old?

  Well, regardless, I got thinner -- normal weight -- and got attention. I suppose I should hold that against the men who suddenly liked me? "You should have liked me when I was FAT!" I should have yelled. Or maybe hold a deep bitterness for all men, everywhere, because none of them would date when I was 200 pounds but with a "stellar personality."

  Years after losing the "fat" I started dating a waiter. Imagine that! A non-obese woman choosing a man who made LESS money than she did! Minds must explode.

  We all have our reasons to be bitter, but we can choose to be bitter. I know my partner would NOT have dated me when I was fat. So what?

  —Alma Mobley Read Alma Mobley's other letters
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