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I find it hard to believe the majority of men don't feel the same way as I do on this subject. I hate to judge people at all, but I believe that men who engage in sex without love are NO different than women who engage in sex without love.
If neither sex ever engaged in sex without love, you can be sure that the human race would become extinct in approximately three generations, because no one would ever have sex to find out whatt all the fuss was about, so many would remain virgins, nearly all one-night-stands would fail the test except in cases of love at first sight, and because 95% of marital sex would be eliminated.
Don't get me wrong. When sex and love do coincide it is nice, but they are not necessary for each other. I love my wife and I have sex with her, but the actual sex is not necessarily any different from sex with a woman I don't love, because when people who don't love each other have sex they engage in a kind of method acting that includes displays of affection, kindness, humor, and so on, the only difference being that the feeling is purely temporary, whereas "love" assumes that the relationship is ongoing and that one will have to celebrate her birthday, her mother's birthday, and everything else that is important to her.
