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• Wednesday, December 3, 2008 11:48 PM

  @JC Miller & "some incantations & it's marriage"

  I have no particular problem with what this woman is doing. Although I would parse that there IS a difference between selling ones brain power and selling something that entails another person's body part being inside of yours, simply for the sake aof a label on a dress or a trip, etc.

  What you describe with the inacantations and a couple of rings, minus anything else, is not just "a marriage on paper", its a "BAD Marriage". I waited until I was 40 to "tie the knot" w/ my wife. And I considered the incantations a formality, as I do the rings. (I don't wear mine because I'm a contractor and it gets lost or damaged when I do wear it.)I consider the incantations just that not because they are meaningless in the sense that because were screwing and taking coed vacations anyway that the words are essentially meaningless and my wife is a prostitute, (or I am because, she's a lawyer who earns thrice what I do), but because I have such a powerful and unique connection with this person that I am connected to her body and soul WITHOUT the words.

  There is simply no other person I'd rather share my life with, or, after closing on ten years, my bed, but more so my head and heart.So while your comment may be a true analogy for YOUR view of the meaning(less) of the commitment one makes when they DO utter the words making that promise or set of promises, it is in no real sense true across the board. So just as some would call this woman a prostitute and some may call her "married without the ring", its all based on personal point of view.

  But to be blunt, in the perfect moral world or deeper existence that the best of our race strive for within the parameters of a relationship of any type, this set-up, while not completely immoral, and possibly the most honest one can get, is not something to bray about like a proud showhorse exactly because it delineates the shallowest of human behaviors and not the best.

  I may understand a woman without wherwithal or education or connections, all, going this route out of neccessity in order to get an education or a roof over her head. Thats simply a mode of survival. But that is not the case here. This is simply a shallow person evincing the shallowest of behaviors for the shallowest of reasons. And I'm sorry if your marriage is so meaningless to you, or if thats what you observed in your familial surroundings. But there ARE people who do aspire to deeper meaning in their lives and marriages,...and DO find that which they seek.

  Rather than aggrandizing this woman, it seems to me that she is little more than a lazy, spoiled Bitch. I'm sure she'd make any parent proud.

  —papabotts Read papabotts's other letters
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