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Tuesday, June 24, 2008 12:00 AM

"I'm not pregnant -- but the night is young"

Joy Nash offers women some snappy comebacks to nasty remarks about their bodies.

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Tuesday, June 24, 2008 09:54 AM

She's very pretty

As I say when I'm drunk, you can be fat if you're pretty or ugly if you're thin, but it's a cold, hard world out there if you're not pretty OR thin.

Tuesday, June 24, 2008 10:16 AM

There was an old joke....

The old Erie RR had a reputation for being late, to the point that some riders considered the schedules to be a form of company-provided humorous literature...

A very-expectant mother-to-be on an Erie train stops the conductor and asks for a doctor. Says she thinks she's going into labor.

Conductor brings a doctor, who determines that there is no immediate danger to mother or baby and says there's a hospital near the next stop.

Conductor asks, "Madam, why did you get on this train in that condition?"

Woman replies "When I got on this train, I wasn't in this condition!"

(yes, it's a very old joke)

Tuesday, June 24, 2008 10:25 AM

Size acceptance?

Why do you use the term size acceptance when if the writing on BS is any induction it is only those that are overweight and obese that are accepted for there size while those that are underweight are treated as if they are less than a person, derided for any success that happens to them, and this site has made it clear that those underweight should not even be allowed to have certain jobs?

Tuesday, June 24, 2008 10:39 AM

I squeed

I don't know what "squeed" means, but I'll bet it has something to do with excessive use of exclamation points.

Tuesday, June 24, 2008 10:47 AM

It's not always the case that we see ourselves as too fat

When I look back ten years I see a chubby 9 year old. I never considered myself fat or even overweight (thanks parents) but I clearly was. Anyways why waste your time making comebacks? If you are comfortable with your weight (which she clearly is not) then just ignore them.

Tuesday, June 24, 2008 10:50 AM

Can we please stop talking about this?

Be fat and ok with it, or change how you look. Keep it to yourself though, neither one makes you a hero.

Tuesday, June 24, 2008 11:06 AM

Joy is hot

Joy is absolutely gorgeous! Let's just get that straight. Second, she has a terrific wardrobe. Third, she's damn hilarious. And I love her mission. I hope she reads lots of fawning comments and goes to sleep feeling fine tonight!

Tuesday, June 24, 2008 11:07 AM

Squeed?

I had to look that one up; it appears in the "Urban Dictionary" like so:

1. squeed - verb

When you laugh and pee comes out - I totally just squeed

2. squeed - (skw`eed) –noun

Marijuana that has been tainted with semen. Typically sold to douchebags. - I totally just sold that kid a bag of squeed! Alt: I ran out of weed, so I was forced to smoke my bag of squeed.

You must be using the first definition. Anyway, I have to ask - does Broadsheet have to be so relentlessly stupid so very often? Why is there this tendency to talk like a ten year old? It's not that I expect you to actually be serious (anymore), but how about writing like adults?

Now go change your pants before you set feminism back any further.

Tuesday, June 24, 2008 11:09 AM

seen but not heard?

"Keep it to yourself" and "ignore them" is pretty terrible advice. One SHOULD reply to insulting comments, if for no other reason than to help the commenter realize how offensive she or he is being. I don't believe in insulting back, as it just escalates the ill-will, but many people really are clueless and don't realize how badly they are behaving until it's pointed out to them. One time in a store I heard a woman ask another woman -- a stranger -- if she was pregnant, and the stranger replied that she'd just miscarried twins in her fourth month. It was super awkward, and I'll bet the questioner never asked anyone that again. My mother always told me that "it's never polite to comment on a lady's body," whether it's a compliment, an insult, or a general observation. I wish more people would adhere to that simple rule.

Tuesday, June 24, 2008 11:10 AM

@SB

Ha ha, zing!

Tuesday, June 24, 2008 11:23 AM

Squee, Squeeing, Squeed

"squeed" is the past-tense of "squee".

The Urban Dictionary has this to say:

A noise primarily made by an over-excited fangirl, however it has spread rapidly and is now widely spread among the web community.

Omg!! New Harry Potter book out!! Omg Squee squee! omg!!!

Tuesday, June 24, 2008 11:51 AM

@scrynne

So my opinion is "pretty terrible?" Guess Id better point out how uncivilized that is, because you might be unaware. Jackass.

Tuesday, June 24, 2008 12:18 PM

Why waste time on comebacks?

Because it doesn't go away if you're silent.

Unlike what our parents told us in grade school, ignoring it does not make it better. An individual repetitive bully, that might work on, presuming that they're doing it for the childlike reason of wanting to get a rise out of you.

But that's not how it usually goes. They're not doing it to get a rise out of you, they're doing it to feel better about themselves, or because in some twisted way they think it'll make you change your behavior to something "healthier".

And it doesn't.

There are so many assumptions. I eat a bit more than average, I guess, but not much, and less than a number of slimmer people I know. I exercise *far* more than the US average. (The bicycle commute helps.) I am not only not lonely, but I have never been unable to get a date at any point in my adult life. Did every guy I liked like me? No, but that wouldn't change if I were thin.

So, hi. I'm Susan. I'm 5'8" and, as of a couple days ago anyway, 204lbs. 224 was too much, for me, when I was there... but 140 just about killed me. I think I'm gravitating back to 180-190ish (where I had been since puberty before my encounter with an eating disorder), but I'm okay where I am now. I don't have two thin parents. I do have a fiance who thinks I'm terrific. I have faults, but my weight is not one of them. Why should I have to put up with jerks if nobody else would?

Tuesday, June 24, 2008 01:30 PM

meh

I watched the video and she didn’t strike me as terribly snappy with the comebacks. She struck me as someone who was trying hard to not let on that it bothered her.

Tuesday, June 24, 2008 01:36 PM

I wouldn't open the video

It dropped a trojan horse on my system, which was reported by my virus catcher.

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