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Friday, June 20, 2008 12:00 AM

The great size debate continues

A popular online chart claims to show women's preferred penis size.

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Friday, June 20, 2008 11:15 AM

When we say size doesn't matter....

We mean not under 5 inches or above 8.....

we are picky picky creatures.

But in all seriousness....Really it's nothing to boast about if you have a horse dong....especially if every girl you show it to is too scared to give you the experience of using it.

DURHUR.

Friday, June 20, 2008 11:17 AM

Not just for girls anymore...

This would also be a fascinating chart, were the same question posed to Gay men! (who cared about such things)

Friday, June 20, 2008 11:25 AM

Kind of surprising

I guess I'm just a lucky girl, but based on my past experience (over 30 years or so), I would have guessed that 7 inches was about average. I tend to favor tall men, though, so maybe there's some correlation...

Friday, June 20, 2008 11:29 AM

I'll meet you halfway

If you do your Kegels.

Friday, June 20, 2008 11:40 AM

I had to check and see if the "ideal" is what I would prefer...

Based on my experience 7" is average for length, and 6.5 is fairly common for circumference. Of course I am assuming the measurements are based on full turgidity.

(I hope all the dudes are taking this in good fun. This is something that is bound to come up over and over again.)

Friday, June 20, 2008 11:41 AM

I failed geometry calss

so when I read "circumference" my brain thought "diameter" and for a split second I felt oh so very inferior.

Friday, June 20, 2008 11:46 AM

Kira is a woman

But I am not sure what has happened to her since the 80s.

Friday, June 20, 2008 11:56 AM

Black Flag background

I see it was mentioned, Kira Roessler was indeed a woman, and a great bass player. But Black Flag never had a song called "Who's got the 10 1/2?" it was an album, a fine one at that.

On this great live album, during the two-song mini-medley of "Slip it In" and "Gimme, Gimme, Gimme," Henry Rollins, who sang for Black Flag then, went into this cocksize bit, and the humor of it was the "guy" with the big one was ... the gal in the band.

On the size topic, since men can do nothing to get bigger, why not do their best with what they have?

Friday, June 20, 2008 11:58 AM

10+ is only "enjoyable"?

Wow. All of those adult films out there make it seem 10+ would be"ideal(perfect)" not just "enjoyable".

Does that mean they're just acting?!

;)

Friday, June 20, 2008 12:03 PM

"something that is bound to come up over and over again"

Well, one would hope!

Friday, June 20, 2008 12:07 PM

Be Yourself, Be Happy with what you have... blah blah blah

Unfortunately while I can study, work out dramatically, eat and dress better - there is nothing I can do to take my 7incher to a glorious 8 or niner.

it is weird though that science hasn't come up with a solution - the day they do... those doctors and the pharmaceutical company that backs them will all become billionaires.

And no, for some guys it is a fucking big deal - because there is nothing you can do to change it and you had no say in what you get.... unlike chicks who can lose weight, get lipo, or implants or surgery.

Friday, June 20, 2008 12:09 PM

Size DOES matter, but not how men think

I would be willing to bet this "Penis Chart" was written by a man, and the measurements in it are total fabrications. Despite what many men apparently seem to believe, bigger is not necessarily better when it comes to penises. Yes, size does matter. But it's possible to be *too* big. Having sex with someone whose penis is too big is extremely uncomfortable, and not at all enjoyable.

The other thing that bothers me about such size charts is that not all women prefer the same thing in a penis. Why? Because women come in all different shapes and sizes. A penis that is just right for one woman may not be big enough (or small enough) for another woman.

I have a theory about this. I firmly believe that there is a vagina for every penis. That no matter what shape or size your penis is, somewhere out there is a woman for whom that particular penis will fit *just right*. So the secret to sexual bliss, for both genders, is to find the person with the matching genitalia, and go from there. Of course, fit isn't everything - there's a lot more to good sex than inserting penises in vaginas. That, however, is beyond the scope of this discussion. If you need help in that regard, I recommend checking out "The Joy of Sex". (Obviously, this theory only applies to heterosexual couples - I am not male, so I can't speak to the size requirements of gay men, but I would imagine that preferences are similarly varied.)

I formulated this theory when, after years of getting around quite a bit, shall we say, and experiencing a large number of penises, I found a wonderful man whose equipment happened to be a perfect fit with mine. We were a perfect fit for each other personality-wise as well, and we've been happily married for 10 glorious years now. At the same time that I was marrying him, my ex-husband, who was on the small side, met a friend of mine who really set off fireworks for him, and apparently he did the same for her. He was never really big enough for me, but apparently he fit her just right. (She was a lot shorter/smaller than I am.) They moved in together almost immediately, got married several years later, and as far as I know are still together.

The moral of this story, guys, is "Quit worrying about the size of your penis. Find a woman (or man) who likes your penis just the way it is, and devote yourself to finding out all the things that really send her (or him) over the edge into total ecstasy."

Or as my husband says, "The difference between the men and the boys? Giving your partner four orgasms."

No complaints from me! :D

Friday, June 20, 2008 12:17 PM

Where is the journalism here?

Perhaps I am suffering from having high expectations, but given that you guys share a hosting site with Glen Greenwald, I am going to go ahead and criticize you for doing zero research on this chart. I am also fairly confident that my being a guy who has always been curious/terrified of what women think about penis size has contributed its fair share to this comment.

Anyway, tracing the source of that chart (which took a total of two clicks) to a massive site devoted entirely to penis size made me think that that is what would have made a better blog post. This is especially the case because I cannot see any indication that the guy (woman?) running the site is a shill for any pill, or much of anything.

The exception that proves the rule is the site's overwhelming adulation for some douchebag's "how to pick up chicks" book. However, that book has nothing to do directly with penis size which the author of the site freely and repeatedly admits (although one could argue that "male enhancement pills" are essentially selling the same type of emotional support to men).

Anyway, I'm not asking for much. Let's just agree to make some movement towards resolving age-old issues instead of letting the ideological bullshit overwhelm us.

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