Letters to the Editor
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Hearing from men...
I'd like to hear from some guys on this subject, because the ability of a man to enjoy sex with a prostitute is something I've never understood in the first place. Most of the men I know say that it's important to them that their partners enjoy sex. The idea of a partner faking an orgasm would really bother them. Yet some of these same guys admit to having sex with prostitutes. They seem to manage by a sort of cognitive disconnect which doesn't allow them to admit that the woman wouldn't choose to have sex with them if she weren't paid.
Just like most married women wouldn't have sex with their husbands, except for being married to them.
The truth is that sex for pay is all that different from free sex. It can be a lot of fun, or it can be totally soulless and depressing.
If you look at the Web sites where men rate prostitutes it is quite clear that men prefer the former and try to avoid the latter.
No one wants to have sex with women who are trafficked or under the thumb of abusive pimps.
There is nothing wrong with this poster campaign raising awareness of trafficking and forced prostitution issues, and in fact it would be a good idea if all massage parlors where they are legal posted a free 1-800 number where people could report suspicions of forced prostitution, but I suspect they would hardly ever be used.
This BBC article recounts the experiences of three men and contains some useful discussion points.
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/magazine/7257623.stm