Letters to the Editor
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Wanting it
Men want sex all the time when they have never enough of it, or cannot get any.
But it is like chocolate cake. Enough is enough.
When men have completely screwed their brains out with a large variety of partners, then they tend to become just like other people, approaching sex like a nice meal, or a glass of wine, or a hot tub, as something to be enjoyed now and again as an occasional treat.
There is nothing, however, that turns a man off sex more than a woman saying "Why don't we have sex any more, hun? Is there another woman or is there something wrong with your willy?"
To which the honest reply is:
"Not now sweetiepie. Sex is nice, but I would prefer to play online poker or write letters to Broadsheet or watch soccer in Spanish on ESPN."
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If the average middle-aged American woman looks like Hillary Clinton...
...who does the average middle-aged American man look like?
Just curious.
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Contraception and pornography might be part of the problem
With the advent of the pill in the 60's, having sex without condoms became so much easier, because you could have sex ANY time you wanted and didn't have to worry about getting pregnant. Before, if you wanted regular (condom-free) sex, you had to wait until the least fertile parts of the cycle or else take a high risk getting pregnant.
Now, anytime of the month is up for game, and as with anything, when you can get as much you want of something ANYTIME you want, you seem to not want it as much anymore. Sex is much more enjoyable and rewarding when you've been "deprived" of it for a couple days.
As for the porn thing, with internet porn so available, many more guys view pornography. When they look at these airbrushed pornstars over and over and then see that their wives don't look anything like that, they don't get so turned on.
Plus, more and more men are becoming perfectly content just making love to their hand instead of a real girl.
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Middle aged men don't want sex ...
... maybe because middle-aged, post-menopausal women, who have gained weight, and lost energy, and wear snow suits to bed, and don't want to try anything new, and yell at them too much, maybe bore them to freakin' tears.
I.E. - compare sex to masturbation and see what you get.
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Wow
Defensive and accusing even about this post. You people need some serious therapy. Your paranoia is showing.
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Broadsheet
The home of bitter, angry men since 2005.
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Not at my house
My wife loves intimacy, I do, too.
However sex once a week is starvation.
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Tough, innit?
Pre-Viagra, women were told that men lost interest because women were not sexy after age 40. Women took hormones in the hope that men would stay interested. Now women can't take them any more because of the cancer risk.
My observation is that the real sex drive on men drops way off after age 40 but most are not willing to admit that. So they blame women, of course.
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The Average Middle-aged American Male
If the average middle-aged American woman looks like Hillary Clinton... who does the average middle-aged American man look like?
Bill Clinton. Before the heart surgery. You know: soft, pale, tubby.
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You don't suppose
it could all the trace pharmaceuticals in our water, could it? Or the antidepressants that keep so many middle-aged adults of both sexes from slitting their wrists. Or all the processed foods we ate in bed in our younger days, or the pthalates emitted by the plastic liner in our post-coital showers. Or the cell phone signals. Or the soul-sucking nature of so much of contemporary life.
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"If the average middle-aged American woman looks like Hillary Clinton...
...who does the average middle-aged American man look like?
Just curious."
Barack Obama? At least he makes a nice contrast to Rush Limbaugh.
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stupid stereotypes
do you think our male ancestors would have sex 24/7, since women were not empowered to decline?
it's all just pounded into your head; males pursue, women play coy. if you don't follow that rule, you're obviously gay.
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Nothing has changed
Middle age is when men often seek sex outside their marriage . As their wives age, the men do want to accept they too are aging. So they seek thrills elsewhere often with younger women to keep up the fantacy that they themselves are still young.
Truth is middle age guys jsut can't get it up as often, so their wham, bam, thank you, days are gone. It takes more time which the men are not used to.
Secure men and women don't need to have sex all the time in middle age.
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Science
Menopause, I think, has a deleterious effect on a womnen's interest in sex.
This is actually born out by sex studies. It has nothing to do with hostility to women. My anecdotal experience backs this up. Men, at the same time, also have a drop-off in libido, but not as severe.
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How ridiculous
With more than 75% percent of American males and 72% of American females clinically overweight, nobody should be throwing stones, and ain't no way in hell is Barak Obama an averige middle-aged American guy. You wish.
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I'm just a little shy of 40,
so maybe I'm not qualified to discuss this issue yet.
Still I wonder, is it possible that a trailing-off of sexual energy is 100% natural and dovetails nicely with the drop-off in the plausibility of procreation?
I mean, how vital is middle-aged sex? Especially when viewed from the standpoint of species survival, it seems the right answer is "not very."
I don't mean to discourage all the over-acheivers out there who are hell bent on "staying active" in every sense until the age of one hundred and three. If you have the energy for that, then go crazy.
I only mean to suggest that we may be in the process of bemoaning a simple byproduct of the aging process. Is there any aspect of the aging process that people will willingly and gracefully accept?
I apologize if the last question struck anyone as un-American.
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Why?
"Yeesh, I don't know why this is happening. Maybe it's depression, or "changing sexual roles," as the story so vaguely suggests." Sarah Hepola
Well crap, couldn't POSSIBLY be that men are getting turned off when women won't let them BE men. You want him to be kinder, gentlier, more considerate and at the same time you want him to be a he-man, to take charge - but ONLY if he does what YOU want him to do.
OR, could be you want him to wine you and dine you every single time...and then make conditions about how, when, and where you're going to have sex. Maybe the payoff isn't worth all the effort to go thru to get it any more.
There are a number of reasons why this is occurring and it depends on the situation with the man and the woman.