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Saturday, April 26, 2008 12:00 AM

Lust in translation

A new study says "faulty male introspection" is to blame for misread sexual signals.

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Monday, April 28, 2008 03:17 PM

LeCastor

But I daresay running to tattle-tale to the teacher is not what a "real man" would do.

Just protecting myself from a witch.

Perhaps I should have you arrested.

Monday, April 28, 2008 03:18 PM

LeCastor

Tell her LeCastor has been challenging your arguments on a thread in Broadsheet.

Your defamation and stalking are documented.

There is no delete button. And you've implicated yourself.

Monday, April 28, 2008 03:19 PM

@ AKA Smith, walter map

Oh dude, this doc love stuff is great. Wow. Just wow.

Other key ideas in "The System" include a list of Male Traits and Female Traits that are necessary for romantic love to exist. The Male Traits are Confidence (subdivided into Self-Confidence and Self-Esteem), Control (subdivided into Discipline, Patience, and Self-Control), and Challenge. The Female Traits are Integrity (subdivided into Honesty, Loyalty, and Trust), Giving Nature, Flexibility, and a lack of emotional baggage from prior relationships.

I don't sue how this:

You should know that walter is a certified True Believer in Doc Love's The System using specific pick up techniques for catching women.

is not compatible with "happy long-term relationships rather than to seduce women for one-night stands."

You can catch women to have long-term relationships with them, I think. Where's the problem?!

I gotta ask, walter map, has the system worked for you to help you have a happy long-term relationship with a woman?

Monday, April 28, 2008 03:21 PM

LeCastor

Your defamation and stalking are documented.

There is no delete button. And you've implicated yourself.

Monday, April 28, 2008 03:23 PM

@ walter map

Perhaps I should have you arrested.

Your defamation and stalking are documented.

There is no delete button. And you've implicated yourself.

Arrested? For what? Stalking? Is this what the System teaches you to do? Posting on one continuous thread, making one sarcastic come-on, all within the space of a few hours is hardly stalking, get over yourself.

At least brightstar never ran to hide behind anyone's skirt. More props to him.

And defamation? How on earth did I defame you? Do you even know what defamation is?!

Monday, April 28, 2008 03:24 PM

LeCastor

Your defamation and stalking are documented.

There is no delete button. And you've implicated yourself.

Monday, April 28, 2008 03:27 PM

@ walter map

Look, walter, do you have some sort of persecution complex? Go look up the definition of stalking, and defamation, and see how silly and paranoid you look. :) Geez.

AKA Smith said that the System's tactics appeal to a paranoid person -- well, I think we have some persuasive evidence as to that fact.

Monday, April 28, 2008 03:29 PM

LeCastor

Your defamation and stalking are documented.

There is no delete button. And you've implicated yourself.

Monday, April 28, 2008 03:31 PM

LeCastor

Your defamation and stalking are documented.

There is no delete button. And you've implicated yourself.

And you're still doing it. You're still digging that hole.

Monday, April 28, 2008 03:33 PM

LeCastor

AKA Smith said that the System's tactics appeal to a paranoid person -- well, I think we have some persuasive evidence as to that fact.

Let's put it in front of a jury, shall we?

Now Tom Hodges has cause for a defamation suit as well.

Keep digging that hole.

Your defamation and stalking are documented.

There is no delete button. And you've implicated yourself.

Monday, April 28, 2008 03:36 PM

@ walter map

You obviously have no idea what defamation means or is. Here's some free advice: cut your losses, stop trying to threaten people who made you look stupid.

Monday, April 28, 2008 03:37 PM

LeCastor

Is this what the System teaches you to do?

It very clearly advises men to stay far away from women like yourself. Except that it's not possible with you because you're a stalker.

Your defamation and stalking are documented.

There is no delete button. And you've implicated yourself.

Monday, April 28, 2008 03:39 PM

LeCastor

stop trying to threaten people who made you look stupid.

The evidence clearly shows that you are threatening me with addition defamation.

Your defamation and stalking are documented.

There is no delete button. And you've implicated yourself.

Monday, April 28, 2008 03:40 PM

@ LeCastor

Here's a link to the actual advice given:

http://www.askmen.com/dating/doclove/

It seems a trustworthy woman is pretty much an under control doormat. Also, Doc Love often labels women liars with no proof whatsoever. Seems to be a bit of a specialty.

LTRs are rather depend upon how that is defined. Walter himself is juggling four women (he says) so fidelity would not be his strong suit even though he is a true believer.

Personally, I would rather end up with one of those PUA types who mainly wanted variety and one night stands than trapped with one of those System guys. However, that would never happen. I am waaaay too assertive. The best thing about these guys is that they are supposed to go away.

We will see if walter will go away, you witch you. Could you wiggle your nose or something?

Monday, April 28, 2008 03:41 PM

@ walter

I am not stalking you, I'm responding to comments you make towards me. It's not stalking to participate in a conversation on an internet thread. I'm not pursuing you to other threads or websites or physical places, i'm not seeking to obtain personal information about you, I am not doing anything that constitutes stalking. Nor defamation, which would require me to defame a known person, most likely by name or identifying characteristic, in a widely publicized forum, and to cause you monetary damages, which you would have to prove. Good luck with all that.

Monday, April 28, 2008 03:41 PM

about rapists

Anonymous_Too, I hope you're not starting to feel like we're picking on you.

Your last post made me sad. First of all, how would you know if he were a habitual rapist? It's not like habitual rapists walk around with it branded on their foreheads. You can assume that most of his victims are not leaping up to tell the world, either. How many people did you tell?

I've only really known two rapists well enough to have an opinion of them. One was my foster daughter's father. He was a bank president, a church-goer, and a solid member of society. He was so outwardly respectable that when presented with undeniable physical evidence of violent rape of a thirteen-year-old girl, the court sentenced him to six sessions of counseling.

The other was a young Marine. He was very handsome and very charming. We later learned that he was married and had two small children. He's the one who raped my obese friend. This was at a camping retreat. I danced with him and flirted with him - he didn't trigger any alarms with me at all. The only odd thing is that I would have guessed that he was gay - there's a certain reaction women get from men, even if the man's married or not particularly interested - that sizing up of how attractive you are. That was missing. He was polite and even flirty, but there was a sense that I didn't have whatever he was looking for, which I've only otherwise encountered with gay men. It turned out that he was looking for a fat woman. He raped my friend extremely brutally - she had chunks bitten out of her flesh - and then curled up in a puddle of her blood and went to sleep, innocent as a kitten, while she ran for help. When the men at the campsite woke him, he was apparently surprised to be bothered and asked what it was all about - while covered in blood. The men were so disoriented by his behavior that what had started as a lynch mob dispersed without doing anything. In the end he wasn't even arrested.

Sorry, that got a bit gruesome. But my point is, habitual rapists don't look like any one thing. And it's very normal for them to fuck with people's minds. Their behavior is anyone's fault but theirs. Or it's something they wish they could control but they can't. If I had a dollar for every time I've heard a pedophile cry and say he can't help himself, I could buy myself a pony. For every guy who says he was too worked up to stop and his high heart rate forced him to rape, there are three guys who cursed the woman for saying no and wanted to put their fist through a brick wall and then walked away, because THAT IS WHAT NORMAL MEN DO IN THAT SITUATION.

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