As a 26 year old male, I have come to the conclusion that being direct is the best policy.

In addition, as a man of color who dates interracially and has done so since college; it has served me well to let women lead and also to check explicitly if things are ok.

A playful/flirty "are you having fun?" always allows enough room for the lady to set, confirm or dispel my expectations.

No means No. It's annoying, sometimes confusing, but I would rather walk away than deal with a rape accusation situation - I have worked too hard and come too far for that.

In addition, if a girl tells me she wants to "just be friends"... I generally kill things right there.

I am not loooking for any more friends, I have enough good friends... I am generally looking to have a good time. I

heard that line waaay too much in High School and I am never going back to that phase again.

I want to address an interesting question that ClearBlueSea brought up....

I struggle with what she brought up too because I am a guy who has been very adventurous sexually and I have gone out of my way to seek encounters out of the norm - partly because it makes for a more interesting life story and partly because certain things turn me on.

I have not had as many one nighters as I would like ~ indeed my ideal superpower if I could have one would be able to walk into a bar and telpathically figure our who the "easiest/most willing" women were. But that is because a 1 nighter is truly the woman's choice. There are certain things you can do in your favor, but if she or her "cockblocking" best friend decide against it... you're done.

And this is the life of many a straight man... till you develop power, riches or fame - or preferably all three at once.

Women do not have this problem. And women can go out and get laid and many do...

I do not have a problem with this.

However when you combine the amount of work that the regular guy has to put in to get some... combined with the ingrained fear of infidelity and what that says about the cuckold whose woman is running around on him and you can see why some men will not invite trouble upon their heads by investing emotions and resources in a sexually free woman. I am not saying that these guys want a prude, but one can find women who will be sexually free with the *right* guy and that is the woman you want to marry; not someone - who, rationally or not, might fuck someone else and then tell you "it was just sex".

So while it is very easy to enjoy the fruits of the sexual freedom and I have, it is very hard for me to think that such a relationship will ever be more than that - just sex, because in my case, I don't want to deal with the risk of dealing with a potential risk. This is also why some people do not date people who cheated on significant others... they don't want to run the statistical risk.

There are some men who are also intimidated by this power that they will never have... and they may resent that - so it is easier to call people names and avoid women like that altogether, but I try not to be one of those guys.

My philosophy is to enjoy the fruits and to make sure that I rack up as many interesting experiences of my own.

It also makes sense to not ask the question if you can't handle the answer.

Is this fair or does this even make sense. I am not sure it does to a woman, but it does to a lot of guys I know. I once read somewhere that women fear literal things like rape and violence, while men fear things like sexual inadequacy and sissification...

In addition, I will say this. During the course of my sexual career I have been the guy helping the "sexually free" woman cheat on her Boyfriend/Husband/Fiance... and perhaps this is my karmic payback, but at this point in my life I will do all I can to never put myself in that situation (assuming I was open to a relationship)... and if it involves picking the "good" girl so that I have "some" peace of mind. I'll do it all day long.

How does a MAN report a vicious female stalker to the Salon webmasters and have her removed?

I just you just do it.

Let's find out if Salon believes in equal treatment.

Don't worry about me, my reputation precedes me.

Care to address the logical inconsistency of what you've been saying, "withhold sex until she straighens out" vs "if he's a real man, you'll never see him again"? Which one of these is your suggested method of action? Are you not a real man, since you say you will withhold only temporarily?

The more you make insults instead of arguments, the worse you make yourself look.

You should know that walter is a certified True Believer in Doc Love's The System using specific pick up techniques for catching women.

You're lying again.

Here's the facts:

Doc Love differs from the "pickup artists" of the seduction community in that his focus is on teaching men to have happy long-term relationships rather than to seduce women for one-night stands.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Doc_Love

Try to try that one again. Liar?

That's six of your lies I've documented.

Care to go for seven?

I just you just do it.

???

How to report a vicious female stalker? I dunno, I imagine you email Joan Walsh. Tell her LeCastor has been challenging your arguments on a thread in Broadsheet. Good luck. :)

But I daresay running to tattle-tale to the teacher is not what a "real man" would do.