The counselor thought a more savvy or experienced woman would have been able to get out. It was a dumb situation, really.

Sounds like your counselor may have been doing a bit of victim blaming. Sometimes professional people are dumb. It is worth looking for a good counselor or, even better, a psychologist. It is not for nothing that they have that doctorate. I suggest this not so that you will have a better relationship with men but so that you can be happier with the choices that you do make.

What you ultimately do with your relationship with men is of course your own business. You may have very well simply chosen the right course for you. I think that it is important that you give yourself more credit. All communications are two way streets. If yours sometimes fail, it may not be something within yourself but rather something within the men who are attracted to you. We cannot always help who we attract. For instance big breasted women attract men who like big breasts. This has nothing to do with the woman's inner life.

AND on another note: Could someone PRETTY PLEASE redesign the site to put the name of the poster at the top of the post instead of the bottom? It would make avoiding numbskulls so much easier.

No need to read the content of someone's mind. Better to know who it is who is writing, then automatically dismiss them without reading what they have to say. Wouldn't want to pollute your perfectly selfish mind there.

This is what feminists refer to as 'communication'. You communicate, they decide to listen or not. It is not what you are saying, it is who is saying it and whether they are saying what feminists want to hear. Nothing else matters.

Screw feminists, they have no need for men unless men OBEY. This is quite amply clear.

Oh, and "PRETTY PLEASE"?!? Is this what independent strong women do? Beg sweetly??? screw feminists and screw you.

Because of the horrid reception I have had repeatedly and consistently on these boards the past few years, I will DESPISE feminism the rest of my life. I now know deep down only men who tell women what they want to hear matter to women. It would seem THERE IS NO DECENCY, FAIRNESS, or OBJECTIVITY among feminists. You are either part of the tribe, as ruled by feminists, or you are OUT. I have no need to respect such women, nor does any guy.

Feminists, either become an EQUAL part of society and take the good with the bad or screw OFF and quit bugging men to do anything for you.

I just click Newest First. Then it I can see the name of the poster more immediatly and know who not to read. Ideally, the poster's name would be both at the top and bottom. Even more ideal would be an actual ignore button.

Does anyone remember when Brightstar said that his perfect woman is someone like Camille Paglia?

That seemed very gay, and a classic closeted move -- say that only women who are impossible, for whatever reason, to get are the ones good enough for you, and then you never have to date women.

Right, I LOVE Paglia because she is not a whiny, finger pointing chump, unlike most American women.

It is a 'no-win' you women live to set up-- If I say "too bad she is lesbian, huh?", then you can rip me for imagining she could be into me. If I say nothing, well, then it MUST be because she is inaccessible.

The gatekeepers have a massive ego that NEVER lets up. They will give you the terms of your destruction at the hands of the feminist Borg mind society. BUT THEY WANT RESPECT ANYWAY.

I will fight feminism til my last breath. It is utterly EVIL.

If you don't chase them they won't have to tell you to stop.

Let them chase you. It solves a whole universe of problems.

The Reality Factor says that happily married women who are flexible givers, with high Interest Levels, never seem to get headaches or feel tired. How astonishing! In fact, these women chase their husbands around the coffee table after the kids go to sleep. She doesn't need any aphrodisiacs because he is respectful, affectionate and romantic.

I love her and she chases me. Perfect.

Oh, and you can bet she is NOT American.

If you are the type of woman that picks guys based on status, then yes, those FEW HIGH STATUS guys have their pick of the litter.

For us mere mortals, attractive is attractive, ugly is ugly. Attractive women will get better guys. Attractive guys will get better women.

Not necessarily.

Did you check out that link I posted earlier? If not, try this one:

http://www.askmen.com/dating/doclove_300/315_relationship_expert.html

I just click Newest First. Then it I can see the name of the poster more immediatly and know who not to read. Ideally, the poster's name would be both at the top and bottom. Even more ideal would be an actual ignore button.

I and most of my male friends ignore feminist women all the time.

A great society, everyone talking PAST each other, COURTESY OF FEMINISM.

Then it I can see the name of the poster more immediatly and know who not to read. Ideally, the poster's name would be both at the top and bottom. Even more ideal would be an actual ignore button.

Intentionally blinding yourself isn't going to help you see better.

It's just going to prevent you from having to face some uncomfortable truths. If you don't face those uncomfortable truths you're going to have that much more trouble overcoming your problems.

Not that you have any problems. I'm just sayin'.

I did read the other link-- essentially, it is "How to Succeed with Women 101".

Wished I'd read all of that when I was 14. It should be required reading for ALL boys.

It would take the air out of the witches' sails. God forbid guys should be on the same level field as women. No, the feminist answer, instead let only the natural born players have their run of women, get the women all bIttered up by the time they reach 30, and let us AFCs get the sour leftovers-- UNMARRIAGEABLE ANGRY LEFTOVERS.