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At some point back in college, I decided to go with the direct approach because I was paranoid about sending mixed signals. I enjoyed the occasional hookup, but wasn't comfortable with casual sex. So before things got too hot and heavy, I'd just say outright in some form or another "we're not going to have sex tonight". Oddly enough, every guy (save one) I said that to seemed relieved to know what the limit was and so we could continue and have some fun without the stress of "does she want IT or doesn't she"? Some of my girlfriends were mortified that I was so upfront with guys instead of being coy, but it seemed better than risking any sort of 'faulty male introspection',...er...miscommunication.
