Letters to the Editor
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Here I sit on my welfare pedistal
I admire your thoughtfull heart.
Maybe life would be better if more people were thoughtfull.
And my life may not be stupid, but I am definatly in an insignificant position...and I am the one to blame.
I'm 19...I droped out of highschool in 11th grade, pregnant. Despite the fact I had outstanding grades and excelled in academic english and advanced composition. I was born into a hopelessly financially decaying family. Then homeless at 18, with a newborn...delved into a dead end job that I loathed, and failed to provide a home for myself and my son 3 times. I felt having a partner was in my best interest, and now I see that I was terribly wrong.
I have a list...I want to finish my ged...I want to learn to drive and become dependent on myself...I want to go to college, and will probably spend the rest of my life paying back my student loans....
but I have hope, I really do, and I am not in any position to end my life.
I refuse to engage in any relationship until I have reached my goals and beyond.
I'm tired of being self-centered and remorseful. It's time for some change.
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@Confucius
Ah. In other words, comic relief.
Sometimes I think of Elmer Fudd. "Be vewwy quiet. We're hunting Wabbits."
Or trolls.
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Cataract and Treeple
That's what friends and family do. They worry.
They also yell bloody blue murder after they find out you HAVEN'T confided in them. People form communities in which they care for one another, though you're not feeling the love right now.
The important thing is communicating, however you feel comfortable.
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@Cataract's List
First things are food, clothing, and shelter. Are you set for these? Can you get set?
My guess is that Social Services can help you line up a GED program that goes along with work and "life skills" like driving.
No, you're not in a bed of roses, but you're taking responsibility and looking toward the future. To my way of thinking, that makes you worthwhile. You have a child to provide for, better than you were provided for. And judging from what you said about your grades, you have skills and abilities that are very worth developing.
One reason I always admired Bill Clinton was that, regardless of everything else he did, he bootstrapped himself. I'm not saying you have to become president (good grief, why would you WANT to?), but I'm saying that this country still has the means of helping people like you create good lives.
I admire it when people do that.
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@Greeneyedkzin
Precisely. It's comic relief, or entertainment. BS65 presents a target so broad that who wouldn't want to derive a few moments of pleasure from hurling rotten tomatoes at him? Still, it's definitely a guilty pleasure--like arm-wrestling one's 5 year old cousin, it's easy...FAR too easy.
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Could you be any more entitled Tedra?
"And if being a feminist doesn't lead to a job, doesn't that suggest that society is still perhaps just a wee bit patriarchal?"
What a ridiculous question.
The answer is "no." The fact that your ideology does not entitle you to automatic employment is not an indication of a patriarchal society.
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ha ha ha
you women STILL do not get it.
When My boyfriend and I spit 2 days ago....a relationship of 11 months. He began to attack me with words I would only expect to come from a sexists mouth. I was attacked unfairly and when I attacked back was hit with 10 times more anger then I displaced. It was not all verbal.
Most men tell you what you WANT to hear. When it is over, reality sets in.
Some men, like me, are sick to OUR stomachs of being less than honest with our lovers, girlfriends, and wives.
Unfortunately, feminist PC disallows this option. We have to stick to the script OR ELSE.
have a nice day.
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Right
I mimic how feminists argue.
Brightstar admits to muddying the waters! Color me surprised.
It only underscores how immature and disingenuous feminists are. Also, they DESPISE their own venom being handed back at them in return.
I LOVE IT.
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thrill of the argument
Then he is a hypocrite for calling me a liar...he laced me in soft spoken sweet thoughts...and when we split...his truth came out.
I find it amusing that you quote me...in bold.
You example my insecure letter.
please quote in bold my letter to you.
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@ Brightstar69
As a boarderline masculinist myself, I understand where you are coming from. On the other hand, ranting your arguments against "you women" only allows your message, valid or not, to be disregarded as "backlash" or "angry male." It is easy to get angry about gender issues, especially advocates for women are much better organized and politically influencial than advocates for men. If I wore a bra, I'd burn it. But, don't let yourself be thrown into a rage. It is counter productive. There are better ways to win the fight.
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@Cataract
Ignore BS. You don't need more cruelty.
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A Real Gem
It's been many, many years since my undergraduate days, but I remember my favorite class very well. It was a Women's Studies class, taught by the gifted and inspirational Sandra Dykstra at SDSU, that introduced me to wonderful, amazing writers that I wouldn't have learned about otherwise. True, I could have done very well without the inevitable "Rubyfruit Jungle," but all the other books were jewels. I treasured everything written by the incomparable Tillie Olsen, Charlotte Perkins Gilman, Rebecca Harding Davis, Kate Chopin, Anzia Yezierskia, et al.
In those days, I was a young, single working mother of two children, going to school part time. I did not consider a Women's Studies major or minor, but this particular class was a real gem.
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WS is BS
so long as it continues to perpetuate a political agenda that excommunicates unbelievers or anyone who doesn't toe the party line. The honesty of a real academic discipline just isn't there. For example, among other liberal disciplines such as history, you have Marxists, conservatives, revisionists, intellectualists, materialists, Weberites, etc, where advocates of different philospophical approaches coexist (mostly) in disagreements. That does not happen in Womyn's Studies. Frankly, it's crap.
I'll believe that feminism is dead when laws punishing men, especially in domestic cases, are repealed. In Massachusetts, for example, an unsubstantiated claim by a woman to the police that her ex-husband hit her will lead to a restraining order that directly impacts custody, visitation of children, the ability to obtain a firearms permit, job screening and further credibility in court. I said unsubstantiated. A 209A order may be issued without witnesses, physical proof, or even evidence the man was in the vicinity at the time of the assault, and cannot be appealed. That law didn't just get on the books by itself.
So, yeah, I'm all for gender equality, but not the inequality WS programs push for. I see them as similar to madrassas in educating the next feminist militants, and as toxic to society and reasoned discourse.