Letters to the Editor
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prosecution
I just wanted to point out that prosecutors don't really have choice as to whom they prosecute. They are expected to bring suits against anyone who they have evidence on. If he wanted to not be a hypocrite, he wouldn't have brought action against in the various call girl cases, sure - but when the police bring him evidence that's a clincher, how exactly is he to respond?
So far, I haven't heard anything like underhanded deals with escort services in regards to prosecution. So, in some way, his professional morality is intact.
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There are lots of male prostitutes too
I realize that’s not what THIS scandal is about but if we’re talking prostitution in general let’s not forget there are lots of men out there too who are doing it for all the same reasons the ladies are. And yet no one is calling these men whores or questioning the larger male work ethic.
I know why everyone would rather the face of all prostitutes be a pretty, young Kristen – but that’s really seems to be more about the media showing us sexy photos of ladies then it is about the larger issue of prostitution.
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Legal brothels mean
A wife can't withhold intimacy from her husband, a vicious form of emotional blackmail that happens far too often in this country. Think about it, were it legalized the prices would drop significantly, same as with illegal drugs. If one could safely get release for 50-200 bucks the dynamics of dating and marriage might be forever altered.
Arguably it's actually offensive to tell anyone they can't sell access to THEMSELVES. For instance I work in consulting where we:
-bill by the hour
-do our work in hotels and wherever else our clients want us to
-get our expenses paid like "Kristen"
-get treated roughly by our clients who care not a whit about our personal lives
-look great when we arrive but like hell when we leave, etc
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The sub-title offends me
I know Carol meant it in a positive way but...I have a question in response.
Is it possible for men to ever be 'victimized' by women?
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Exploitation
To think about this in a little bit colder way, prostitution is an economic transaction. And just like others, the idea is that both sides get something they need/want. In the common case, the john gets sex, the prostitute gets money. In and of itself, there's is no inherent exploitation in this exchange. Just because it's undesirable work doesn't make it exploitative, there are plenty of people who do things they don't want to do for a paycheck. That's life.
The only difference is that it's sex involved, which always complicates everything. The normal rules don't apply.
In the sex trade, the prostitute values sex less (or needs money more) than most women do. In many cases this is because of abuse. In some cases it's just because they're different. Because it is often the result of abuse, does that mean it should be illegal? I don't think so. The abuse is the problem, not prostitution.
Not that I'd say the johns (at least the ones using illegal services) are on any particular moral high ground, by any means. Supporting an industry that is rife with abuse and crime isn't a very moral decision, in my opinion.
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@Lanier
You wrote:
"Legal brothels mean
A wife can't withhold intimacy from her husband, a vicious form of emotional blackmail that happens far too often in this country. Think about it, were it legalized the prices would drop significantly, same as with illegal drugs. If one could safely get release for 50-200 bucks the dynamics of dating and marriage might be forever altered."
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Just one question: Do you really, really believe that to be true? It's beyond absurd. First, people can cheat if they want extramarital sex and that's not illegal at all. Don't tell me it's hard to find either because people hook up all the time through personals. Sex is easy. One would think we were in Victorian England by your comments.
The fact is that the older, out-of-shape guy with the receding hairline is NEVER going to get the Kristens of the world without shelling out a lot of money. Most men I know though have something called self-esteem. They'd rather go through dating and marriage to be with someone who actually cares for them rather than just pay someone for sex. That's demeaning to men too.
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@Alecsmom
I agree with Lanier. I also agree that, as an older, out of shape guy with a receding hairline I also wouldn't have much chance with a girl like Kristin without money involved. Of course, even when I was a young, in shape, mop topped lad, it would have still taken money to snare a girl like Kristin, but thats an argument for another thread.
I think you miss the point of what prostitution means to a married guy....no hassles, at least in theory. Searching through personal ads for an unknown quantity to have sex with and all the baggage that comes with is not something most men would consider...think Fatal Attraction. Sex with a "pro" that is a nice neat transaction and ends right there is really the attraction. Not that I have ever done anthing like that.
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AlecsMom
Is delusional if she thinks consensual, non paid for sex is readily obtainable for most men.
For men with the money to have a nice car, wine and dine and entertain women, such consensual sex is possible.
I'm happily married, have been for over thirty years, but I know that if my wife were to pass away or we were to become divorced my chances of finding a willing sexual partner are slim to none.
I closely resemble Homer Simpson, have no money and am dealing with medical issues and bills that leave me with no hope of ever having any money.
For most women, even quite unattractive ones, all they have to do is go to a bar and quit saying "no" at closing time.. They will go home with a man if they wish.
For men it is an entirely different and far less certain proposition if they are not reasonably attractive, socially adept and financially sound.