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Over the years the division of labors has evolved in our household. For on thing I was divorced for over 7 years with 2 kids before I met my current husband,and I have more own career.
Division of house hold duties eases resentment, thus probably makes for better love making. Besides it supports equality. At various time over our life we have had a housekeeper. We have always believed that the children, both girls, needed to help out. I would have done the same with boys. Now my daughters do with their sons. One of my daughters husband does most of the cooking. They share everything equally which shows I did a good job teaching the value of equality.
My husband and I just fell into our chore division naturally over the years. There as o you must do this or that and I always refused to irno his shirts, He did it until I convinced him he was dong a bad job and he finally stared taking them to the laundry. He takes them and picks them up. I cook, then he cleans up after me. I do most of the house cleaning, he does the laundry, (except I hide my very good cloths from him). I love it on Sunday might when we get into the clean sheets he has laundered and put on the bed. He loves it when I cook, he either cleans up or we do it together. We both do gardening, I do as much heavy stuff as he does. Best of all he gets up in the morning and makes the coffee, so it is ready for me. We takes turns pouring each other a glass of wine.
We are now in our 60s and could afford to hire a house keeper and a gardener, but we prefer to do it our selves. We hire out the heavy stuff..tree trimming & window washing. Almost every younger couple in our neighborhood even those stay at home moms have a house keeper, a nanny, a blow & go gardener, then belong to a gym to exercise. Over the years off and on, I have hated housework and sometimes resented it, when I was working. Now that I am retired I find it relaxing and meditative. Besides it is exercise!
