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It has EVERYTHING to do with gender as the following situation makes clear: If a man and woman both work equal amounts and the MAN is the one who is picky about the house being clean and orderly and the WOMAN doesn't care if it is a mess the WOMAN in a situation like this has NO PROBLEM saying to the man "if it matters to you you deal with it". Why is it different when the genders are reversed?