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Monday, March 10, 2008 12:00 AM

The sexual politics of household chores

One writer reenacts a day in the life of a 1950s housewife. Meanwhile, will doing the dishes get men laid?

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  • Monday, March 10, 2008 10:51 PM

    Right Deerie

    What--she wants you to treat her as if she's a human being?!? The nerve. Doesn't she know that your relationship with her is totally all about _your_ needs? (Eheheheheheh...)

    You continue to reiterate what this article just proved to be wrong-- the notion that men somehow want or need a slave for a wife.

    So, even when your own kind (BS) tells you that men most definitely do NOT want a domestic servant, you still plow that same hoary field.

    As to me and the lovely, I am quite clear to her that I am a self sufficient person and have been since I was out of the house at 18 to go to college. I can do my own dishes, laundry, I cook lots of mean dishes, etc, etc, etc.

    I told my lovely that I do not NEED her for any of this. I CHOOSE her because I love her and because I feel we get along wonderfully and because I WANT someone in my life who is my partner in 'crime' as it were. We all want and need connection.

    Getting back to the power games thing. She is testing me, to see what I will tolerate. Usually this involves her saying something along the lines of "I am always right, you are always wrong. is this not?". (We laugh it off now, but God only knows what horror lurks after she has the marriage papers in her hands)

    Deering, you are an assclown, Because if I or any man pulled that same sort of phrase on a woman about me being always right, God help us what crap we'd hear about it.

    I know you ladies despise us men and only see your own navel, so do not pretend otherwise.

    By the way, this is why you women have to be broken. Your monopolies over reproduction need to be surpassed by us men any way we can accomplish it. You will or course come and help us with this so that both sexes can achieve equality, eh?

    We men need EQUALS, women who will treat us with respect, not like this person in my life is trying to pull on me (something that seems innate to women, to mutilate and mold a guy's self esteem to suit her needs). I will survive, I am old enough not to fall for it, so I DO pity young men who are not as seasoned and smart.

    Still, the bigger question is why women are so naturally EVIL towards us men.

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