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Dick suggests that the household chore battles are attributed to innate differences in what men and women care about.
Certainly, I don't buy the idea of innate differences in valuing cleanliness. When you have a (traditionally) all-male group that has important work to accomplish, suddenly cleanliness and order become VERY important. (I am thinking of the military.)
It tends to be only when women are doing the cleaning that it becomes some trivial feminine peccedillo that men can't be bothered with.