Letters to the Editor
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Amendment to above letter.
Sorry, for some reason some of the text in my previous letter was truncated in the middle of a word.
My penpal, on the day after she had confessed her crush to its object, and been rejected, was confronted by a large, angry St. Lucian woman banging on her door and threatening mayhem. She slammed the door and called the police. Nothing further happened, but she felt that she ought to be able to sue the object of her crush for "breach of confidence" as he had endangered her health and safety by talking to his partner about the approach. She persisted with this theory for about a week, but eventually I persuaded her to let it go.
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I read through the whole thread 'cause I can't sleep
I have come to certain conclusions:
1. Men who know that prostitutes have sex for money somehow delude themselves that these women enjoy sex enthusiastically. Maybe the roofer just really, really enjoys roofing and that is why he does this dangerous and miserable job in hot weather. There is just no accounting for tastes. Most people work for money. I suspect prostitutes are no different and pretended enthusiasm for sex is part of the job. For some strange reason, men don't like to admit this. Nor do they seem to like to admit that many women enter this profession in the first place because they were abused as children.
2. Street prostitution is an extremely dangerous job. It is odd to me that despite most of these women being raped about once a month that the good men in this thread are not outraged at this misuse of a human being. I have a solution. When a prostitute is raped or when someone tries to rape a prostitute, she should be allowed to shoot the bastard. Then, should it be determined she acted in a normal defense of her right to say no, charges should not be brought. If the case is iffy the judge should instruct the jury that choosing to be a prostitute in no way constitutes choosing to be raped. That nothing in a transaction takes away a prostitutes right to change her mind or say no.
3. A police officer who in any way exploits a prostitute by using his position should lose his job. It should be strictly against the law for officers of the law to have sex with prostitutes.
4. If prostitution is made legal all customers of prostitutes should have to present identification. At that time, they must also present their marriage license if they have one and their spouse will be notified that his/her partner has visited a prostitute. At that juncture the (innocent) party would know to get tested for disease and would have the full information needed to decide whether of not to continue the relationship. Since most relationships are formed with an expectation of faithfulness, the (innocent) party could then decide to enjoy similar freedoms or else sue for breach of contract in addition to suing for divorce.
I hate liars. Men who have sex with prostitutes and do not tell their spouses or significant others are really liars. They are putting the health of people whom they have sworn to love and cherish at risk. Anything that makes the lives of liars hell, pleases the hell out of me.
(I don't want to hear any men whining about losing the custody of their children over this. If children are so important to you then have them with prostitutes. You do think prostitutes are good enough to be the mothers of your children, don't you?)
This whole thread stinks to high heaven of hypocrisy. I am willing to entertain the notion that prostitution could be legalized and highly regulated for the protection of the prostitutes and for the health of the general public, but I'll be damned if I think it should be legalized just because men think they have greater sexual needs than women.
Just because men may have greater sexual needs than women does not make it incumbent upon women to service those needs, whether in marriage or out of it. If you wife isn't screwing you, then maybe you are lousy in bed or selfish and/or boring as a husband. Maybe you don't know how to open up emotionally or even carry on a decent conversation. Why don't you tell your wife that she should get some strange from someone who is more fun than you and that you will do the same? If she chooses to dump you, then at least you then have had an honest discussion.
The problem isn't that men are faithless and cheat. The problem is that many of them expect to be able to cheat while women remain faithful. That is bad faith. That stinks. That is acting as if you own another human being to exploit. When a man cheats on his wife or partner with a prostitute, he may or may not be exploiting the prostitutes but he sure as hell is exploiting his wife or partner.
Here's a brilliant solution: If that is what you want, don't get married, don't make commitments, don't pair up.
It amazes me that men who would never lie in a business deal think it is okay to lie to women.
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Interesting letters thread, but...
...I think the Anonymous person who wrote the "sex is not widgets" post on page 2 or 3 should have gotten a red editor's-choice star. (No, it was not me.)
It is not surprising that prostitutes develop pricing systems and whatnot. The way it's described makes it sound pretty good: $30 tax-free per hour for an uneducated person is solid pay, etc. And ONLY one assault per month! Not bad!
If prostitution were really about women being empowered to control how they use their bodies, then that would be fine. But since prostitution is usually about women being exploited by others, primarily men, the argument fails.
Legalizing it would hardly solve anything, unless the women were required to be licensed, psychologically evaluated, and medically tested. Then maybe. Who knows, it could be the next Devry or Sally Struthers night class.