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...expressing so much hostility. I feel deeply for this girl. I got pregnant at 37. I was single and I still heard these criticisms. I was "old enough to know better." Contraception does fail. Not everyone can use hormonal birth control. Sometimes men don't stop when you say no. Do you REALLY want to go there?
How it happened is no one's business. It is so refreshing to see that so many readers have created perfectly planned families. I have no doubt that my "irresponsibly conceived" child and I will have as joyful a holiday season as you and all your "perfectly planned" children do. Maybe more so, he really was a gift.