And GOD BLESS THE INTERNET!!!

I wonder if the study was colored by porn consumption in their state-- IIRC Utah's the highest porn consumer in the nation, at least as far as pay-per-view is concerned.

Empowering or Opression? Maybe it depends on who's midget's on top, or with the dog and the heat shrink tubing.

I think that it gives women an outlet to actually seeing porn.

I know before I actually viewed porn, I thought it must be filthy and degrading and horrible and why oh why did men use it and not their imaginations as I did.

Then the internet happened and I found myself looking for porn. I found that it made me excited and I liked it.

It's allowed me to understand that porn has absolutely nothing to do with the feelings I have for my significant other. That porn isn't used to compare me to, or to replace me or anything like that. It's just a way to get your rocks off fairly quickly without having to deal with pleasing someone else at the same time. I can understand the not viewing it every week, I just don't think women masturbate at the frequency men do. I'm a pretty horny gal and even I don't do it at leace once a week.

Plus since many men use internet porn, video porn, magazines, I've learned if you ban it, they'll just use in secret as one of my friends does. He's not "allowed" to use porn, so he just does it behind her back and is very careful to hide all evidence of his usage. So you might as well accept that a majority of men masturbate daily, that they will always find multitudes of women attractive and you can't be the thought police with your man. So better to accept it than be alone or be angry at every man you date or make them keep secrets from you.

Plus I like knowing what kind of porn they like, then it lets me know what they might want in reality and where their fantasies take them. If it was all in their head, I'd never have a clue other than what they tell me! If I came upon porn that was about bondage and pain, I'd say, hmm not the guy for me and cut if off before I had to choose between love and kink.

... but it would be so much better if those who produce it understood that what's /really/ sexy about it is when two (or more, i guess) people are actually, legitimately enjoying themselves. and that enjoyment is grounded, safe, and conscious. i have yet to find good porn that has this ... and appeals to my male sense of "what's attractive." seems that those drawn to porn production(predominantly men, it seems) are playing out completely stupid and often misogynist scenarios. "rough sex" isn't always this ... i have seen (what looks like) empowered men and women playing with a certain energy. but ... what isn't sexy is when women are depicted out of their power.

This is fantastic news. Maybe as more young women watch porn, they, or the established industry, will start actually PRODUCING porn that's designed for WOMEN'S enjoyment, instead of the "insert Tab A into Slot B then emit fake moans and groans" kind.

According to sexually repressed, Mormon, BYU resident:

"Porn destroys families! The gender gap on views of pornography could "create an area of tension when it comes to couple formation," says Jason Carroll, an associate professor at BYU."

Well my wife and I have been watching and enjoying porn/erotica since before we got married, and after 8 years our marriage is still happy and very sexually active.

Jason Carroll, you are an illogical reasoning prude.

Someone should do a study on couples that watch porn. I am sure the results will show that they are happier than couples that don't, and that their marriages/relationships last longer.

Consequentially when my wife and I watch action movies or primetime commercial interrupted TV, we both feel stressed and irritated afterwards. Which is why we turned off our cable, and increased the amount of DVDs that netflix and tigercinema sends us (blockbuster won't send NC17 movies). But we still use the internet (DSL) for hours out of every day.

As part of one of those couples were it's causing tension. It blows.

> The gender gap on views of pornography

> could "create an area of tension when it comes to

> couple formation"

I swear, there are times that the news seems designed to make me feel sorry for straight people.

Was your "it blows" comment tongue in cheek?

Are you two watching the porn together or always separately?

Why do you feel it is causing tension?

"I swear, there are times that the news seems designed to make me feel sorry for straight people."

And gay porn/erotica caused me to see homosexuals (both male and female) as real flesh and blood people with real emotions, creativity, and intelligence.

hopefully you'll get answers.

i'm a straight guy ... and i think most of the conflict around porn (in hetero relationships ... all that i've been in) crops up when porn becomes the "other lover." i actually feel sad for both individuals in this mix ... (assuming certain gender roles, which may not apply in all circumstances) ... but the man seeking sexual zest & excitement doesn't know how to communicate this desire with his partner, or subverts it and goes underground for fear of her rejection ... and the woman reacting from fear and betrayal that this expression of sexuality. both parties, i think, deserve sympathy ... and both have valid beefs with each other. maybe this is what "destroys families" in the eyes of the BYU folks. i think it's too bad that "family values" really means "keeping things under wraps as they always were."

on another note, i am pleasantly suprised by the lack of porn-hating commentary here.

Have you explored the options of non-American porn? I'm not an expert on the subject, but I've seen some righteously hot stuff. Two countries I've seen so far that have put out decent stuff: Brazil and France.

I'm glad that more women are finding porn acceptable. I wish the researchers would have asked more about frequency. I'm fairly lazy and don't actually own a lot of porn, so weekly isn't exactly a frequency I'd reach, but monthly or bimonthly, sure!