Letters to the Editor
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Change her citizenship to Iraqi and have Blackwater kill her
No harm, no foul. The mom just needs immunity from prosecution.
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Dear Colin Kelly
Yes.
Or rather, this was a "bad decision" the way that deliberately choosing to rob a bank was a "bad decision": that is, the kind that PEOPLE SHOULD BE PUT IN PRISON FOR.
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of course if the girl were a new born boy
you could mutilate his genitals in the name of god or science and no one would try and stop you
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Hold on a sec...
Let me get this straight: are you suggesting that women's violence isn't taken very seriously?
Surely, you jest!
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Control
Howabout sending mom away because she is utterly fucking insane? This is NOT by any stretch of the imagination a parenting "bad decision," this is so far away from any normal human response as to be clearly delusional, and I don't care how far down the "end of your rope" you may be.
I am a parent of two teenage girls, and thankfully they seem to be fairly well balanced and not dealing with the typical self-esteem issues and so on, but if one of them went off the rails and I had to try and deal with it, this would not be my response, under any conditions whatsoever.
And even if, god forbid, it happened, I would not characterize it as being "out of control." Out of control? My control? Mom's control? Society's control? What the fuck is it with 'control' and why do we think we have a right to exercise it?
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Let's do a bit of basic math.
When the girl was 11 she was molested by a family friend who was 25. No, he did not have a "relationship" with the girl; he molested her. At no point in time is it possible that he had a relationship with her. He was her molester. Full stop. At no point in time was this girl legally capable of giving informed consent to this sexual exploitation. The girl is now 16 and her molester, who is now 30 has been taken by her mother as a lover.
Therefore, what we have here is a mother who instead of reporting the molestation of her daughter -- as the law requires -- instead punished the girl for being a victim of molestation and decided to fuck the girl's molester. Is anyone unclear on the fact that this is a bad mother? She was complicit in enabling her child's sexual abuse by not putting a stop to it by notifying the authorities.
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Poor child, I hope someone can help her
Sleeping with the man who raped her daughter?
It sounds like it's the mother who's out of control.
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Completely unacceptable:
I don't know who I'm upset at more. The jury and legal system, the mother, or the individuals who think this is acceptable.
This woman can not be permitted to retain custody of this girl. Child Protective Services should be removing her from the household any moment now. Regardless of whether or not the law identifies these behaviors as 'abuse,' it is clear that it is not a healthy environment for this girl.
Not to mention the fact that her mother solicited a piercer to perform an illegal act by piercing the genitals of a minor. I'm not typically an alarmist, but I really really want to hear from anyone who thinks this situation is acceptable. I want someone to make it make sense to me.
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maliciously punishes????
This is just me personally but if anyone came near my labia with a needle and punched a couple holes in it at the request of my mother, in order to shame me. Uhhhh, I would go with that being malicious punishment. Wow that's justice for ya. As far as peoples outlook on are Private parts go, I guess they aren't so private.
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Hey, let's be honest
If her father had done this to her, would there be blogs trying to split hairs to explain why he get off scot-free?
Would he be allowed to continue to parent his daughter?
This woman is a child abuser. Unfortunately, the law often gives a gender pass to women who abuse or neglect their children, as we see time and again.
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"let's hope that we can find compassion, where appropriate, for end-of-their-rope parents, even for violent, in-denial actings-out in response to betrayal"
I'm sorry, but this sentence has no place in the discussion of this case. It's the kind of crap that gives liberalism a bad name. The mother does not deserve any compassion at all - she deserves to lose custody of her child and serve jail time. She is the adult, and it is her responsibility as an adult to control her emotional responses. It is her responsibility as a mother to not physically, emotionally and psychologically abuse her offspring.
The fact that the mother is sleeping with the man that molesterd her child is so repugnant it defies description. She should go to jail for that alone.
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E for Effort
The jury foreman's comment, paraphrased, is that the defendant's heart was in the right place.
Presumably if Mom had stuffed the "out of control" teen into the trunk of her car and left her there for a month or so, this would also be excusable as merely a bad judgement call.
Which brings to mind Mark Twain's trenchant observation: "We have a criminal jury system which is superior to any in the world; and its efficiency is only marred by the difficulty of finding twelve men every day who don't know anything and can't read."
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The whole thing sounds like some kind of fetish gone wrong.
What person in their right mind pierces their child's labia? What on earth would make them think it was acceptable or in any way effective? My guess is that charming boyfriend had some kind of fetish, or he and the mother shared one. I hope that girl gets help.
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@Sandra M
I see what you mean. What *I* mean is that we need to have that kind of compassion in general. Not necessarily here.
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@theogeer
Just FYI: the girl has been removed from the custody of her mother and is in the care of a guardian. Not sure when that happened, but it was before yesterday. So there's that.
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Illustrates a common social problem - mom is always seen as victim
Most sexual abuse in this country is committed by either the mother or the mother's current sexual partner.
And somehow they never seem to notice. Or they blame the kids. Funny how that works.
It's far past time that we start seeing mothers of abused children serving time. If someone besides mom reports the abuse to authorities, it's a pretty darn good guess that she is complicit in her boyfriend's actions.
Give her time behind bars equivalent to half the boyfriend's term.
As long as we continue to see the complicit mothers as victims, child abuse in this country is never going to get better.