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Sunday, Nov 8, 2009
Interesting comment about the Oprah show. I never watch it. Were the women who were cheating on their husbands and the women who were being cheated on the exact same group of women?
As to the woman who hit her husband, he should leave her for hitting him and she should leave him for cheating. They don't sound like a love match to me. :-D
Also, you said: " . . .force their men out of their homea and into affairs"
How do they do this? I am trying to picture someone forcing someone to have an affair. You don't feel that men have their own moral agency?
"force their men out of their homea and into affairs"
The is the lamest excuse ever. I do know a lot of men and women that do cheat on their spouses because the sex life at home has been dead for years, and it is hard to decide what to do when the magic in a marriage dies, but blaming your spouse is not only wrong, its unfair.
It take 2 tango, If there is no sex at home, then both sides of the couple are at fault, and they should work together to solve the problem. Some couples will allow extra marital activity to solve the problem (and sometimes in unique cases that solution actually works), but if you have to lie and make excuses to justify betraying-cheating, then it would probably be a better idea to look into divorce.
Never ever accept a lying, excuse making, cheating husband (or wife), and never ever blame yourself for his (or her) betraying-cheating.
"Remember when I told you that you were protective toward women. You didn't want to think so. You are protective still."
Yeah, I was the elder brother, and sometimes it felt like I was my mother's elder brother (she had really bad taste in men).
No, I said I have never fallen in love with a woman because I felt I had to protect her. But I see what I do as giving women strength rather than trying to protect them. The best way to protect someone is to teach them how to protect themselves, and the best way to teach someone how to protect themselves is to show them their strengths and capabilities.
Every woman I have fallen in love had more inner strength than I did. ;)
"My the time I left him I was no longer under the illusion that he loved me as he always professed. He hated me. I paid."
The western thinking of karma is that it works in the same way that the Christian judgment at the moment of death works.
In Buddhism you don't pay for past karma in death. You could be a serial killer in one life, and then be reincarnated as a child of a very rich family in the immediate next life. However, your past karma would catch up to you in that next life. You would make the wrong decisions, people you had wronged in your past life would have a disposition in their soul against you, and, although you were born wealthy, your life would be terrible, unless you atoned for past indiscretions. Think of it as Dick Cheney being a mean homophobe (or racist) in his past life, but in this life he has been blessed with gay daughter, so that through her he can atone for his evil ways of his past life. Of course his opposition to hate crime legislation may cause him to come back as gay in his next life.
I have to admit that I like that thought.
Early on I thought bad karma just meant you had a bad Bazi.
All I want for karma is not to encounter my ex again.
on teh Intart00bs.
The best way to avoid the people that have caused you discomfort in the next life or the afterlife is too make peace with them in this life.
I often tell people that if Jerry Falwell has gone to heaven, then I would rather go some place else after I die, because an eternity with Jerry Falwell would be my definition of hell. I tried to make peace with Jerry Falwell while he was alive, but I am afraid that he might come back as my first grand child in this life. Learning how to forgive a few seemingly unforgivable people can be a life long lesson.
Though it is hard for me to do so, I forgive you, and accept that you are a tortured soul that has a lot to atone for.
I just ignore the Obnoxious Anonymous. He really doesn't bother me that much. He is sort of like a mosquito before a hard freeze. :-D
But about the heaven thing? Hmm. I can't say I ever worried much about Falwell either, but I thought Buddhists didn't believe in heaven. I don't want to see my ex in heaven either. That is why I enjoy being an agnostic.
However, the forgiveness part interests me because it seems so Christian. (Of course we should have carried on this discussion in the atheist thread, but someone was quite misunderstanding my POV there and I felt to lazy to elaborate.) It seems every faith I know of has both a "golden rule" and an encouragment of forgiveness. I rather like the Jews in this regard. I do tend to think of payback and hold grudges.
What really puzzles me is when I get in a conversation with someone who practices both Christianity and Buddhism. How DO they do that? The Christian concept of forgiveness is to follow Christ's example. The consequence of proper belief is to have all sins removed and gain eternal life in heaven. Now if you gain eternal life in heaven, there is no need for any other lives, is there?
I once discussed this with some Buddhists over the internet and they were quite outraged when I told them that any payment for sins was unnecessary in most conceptions of Christianty because mere sincere belief in Jesus as the son of God was really the ticket into heaven. This seems to them most unjust, rather like a way to avoid one's proper karma. I always thought Chritianity was all about mercy and Buddhism was all about justice. Each, to me, seem to leave out an important part of the equation. Justice should be tempered with mercy.
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