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and I'm not sure the kind of situation you are describing is really the issue anyway. It seems to me that the vast majority of the violence between men and women involves what Smith describes as brawling couples where the motives are essentially the same for both genders. The difference is that the women are less restrained, more emotional and therefore more easily provoked, but usually there isn't much physical damage to either of them unless or until the man gets REALLY mad and responds in kind to the woman and then it is usually, but not always, the woman who gets the worst of it.