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To AKA Smith
Yeah, I have heard a lot of stories about abusive relationships that would make your marriage look like a picnic. My parents got divorce before I was 7, and though my mother remarried for a period of 3 years during my childhood, she was always the dominant one in any relationship that I saw her in, even though she was poor. My father never remarried, and I didn't really get to know him till I was well into my teens, and his drinking kept me at arms length even then. Despite being dominant emotionally and intellectually my mother was (and is) a frail woman (though she sure got viciously angry when the police brought me home), so of course I took on the role of family protector, and with my sister that was no easy task. I hated my temporary step father, and every other man that my mother dated while I was a child, but I never saw my mother abused, or abuse someone. I only met one of my father's girlfriends, but to the best of my knowledge he never abused a woman, though when he got drunk he was not one of the most charming people to be around.
I have never seen an adult become a monster. All the monsters I met were already monsters when I came across them. But I have come across a lot of monsters, and a few of them were women. But the biggest difference I have noted regarding the victims of monsters, is that the male victims get out of the abusive relationships pretty quick, where as I see the women going back like moths to flame.
