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True, the whole "men are helpless around the house" is just a way of thinking some women use justify their existence, or reassure themselves that their man isn't really going to leave them for a younger, fitter woman. "But he neeeeeeeds me." If you are an actual neat, organized man, fully adept at cooking and cleaning, you unintentionally screw up the dynamic for a lot of women. I think it results in a lot of the same issues a man would have if his significant other earned more than he did, or was famous, more athletic, etc.
It's a totally old-fashioned way of thinking, and certainly doesn't apply to a modern, two-income couple. It's a hold-over from the WE Generation, and alas, old-habits die hard. I'll never forget something my step-grandma once told me... "You marry her mother." Boy, that one sure has helped me avoid some death traps...
