Letters to the Editor
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New York Time's?
I think you mean New York Times'...
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And what's up with the hyphen in "two-counts"?
If it's supposed to be there, would some punctuation goddess (or god) explain to me why?
Thanks.
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Re: New York Time's?
Indeed. Thanks for catching that!
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men who frequently insulted their partners...
...were also more likely to engage in "negative mate retention" strategies (like extreme possessiveness or keeping their partner under constant surveillance).
Meanwhile, women who frequently insulted their partners are more likely to be considered progressive and feisty.
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Re: Linney Uston's comment above
Meanwhile, women who frequently insulted their partners are more likely to be considered progressive and feisty.
No, women who frequently insult their partners are more likely to be single.
Just like the men.
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Is anyone studying
Is anyone studying what motivates women to insult men and other women? Insecurity? Competitiveness? Women are extremely competitive socially especially in regards to finding mates. Women are notoriously sharp elbowed with other women.
All the pop advice to women seems to be to over value themselves and be aloof.
And princesses who think they're better than all the men they date, don't get dates except from assholes willing to put up with it. So it's a self fulfilling prophecy. Princesses, and the guys who court them, are the types who wind up in screaming matches by the 3rd date. No thanks.
I've always dated intelligent, secure, nice, beautiful women. The people who read these books probably have issues to begin with.
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You are free to conduct your own study
Peer reviewed or not. Maybe you can study all those competitive, sharp-elbowed women you know. The ones you don't date.
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Got a question....
Why hasn't Broadsheet commented on this?
http://www.startribune.com/467/story/1347727.html
"Woman who claims she was raped by police is charged"
I thought we were all about discussing high-profile sexual improprieties. Surely, this woman's sexuality is being persecuted?
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SNL and its supposed "death throws"
Tracy you are wrong. People have been claiming Saturday Night Live is in its death throws for twenty years and yet the show continues. Your observation is neither original or accurate. My favorite thing about the SNL hater's response to the show is that they often talk about how bad it is while siting the supposedly uncharacteristically talented cast members who have kept it on the air for decades. And a big PS on that, considering that this is a feminist column you might want to consider the value of throwing bombs at one of the only major shows on American network television where women have dominance both on and off screen.
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You drive like a woman!
was (intended as) the WORST insult my evil, BPD afflicted ex-girlfriend could come up with; she had quite a supply. Rather odd, considering that she went to a progressive women's college (or as she would insist, WOMYN's). Retard was another favorite. If I talked back or got mad, I was being abusive. Of course it works much better with some sweet talk and flattery to keep the victim off balance.
In BPD & NPD support groups they call the result of this assortment of insults, lies and manipulation FOG - Fear, Obfuscation, and Guilt. Sometimes it works for years on a susceptible victim. In any case, whichever way the bile is flowing it certainly deserves further study.
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Re: SNL and its supposed "death throws"
I agree that talk of SNL's death is a joke. My only addition is that people have been talking about the show's death on and off for at least 30 years - since Chevy Chase left in 1976. Then again when Belushi and Ackroyd left in 1979, etc, etc.
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one comment
Re: the referenced article reporting the study on insulting women. The article defined negging as insulting a woman; however, in the interview with Mystery on Salon a little while ago, what he described was quite different - not insulting the woman, but the man deliberately doing something slightly unattractive, like blowing his nose, so as not to seem to be trying too hard. So, which is it?
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man's mere existence
is considered an insult to most women these days
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Virtual World
That article was the saddest thing I have ever read. I feel sorry for everyone involved. His actual life is passing him by. His wife will eventually have to leave him because, well, what else can she do? I admire her for sticking it out, but it's evident he has no intention of stopping no matter what.
And that image of him sitting in front a screen for 10-12 hours, making himself a success in a land of pretend, while losing everything in the actual world is utterly awful. And what his wife says is true. He can pretend to remain young and beautiful and successful, even though it's not even real.
One more thing though: it is cheating. It's also really crept into the real world. A woman who is not his real-life wife gave him a gift worth over $400. He spends more time with her than his actual wife. He's having virtual sex with her (and quite possible having real life sexual experiences with her--although not in person). It's cheating, and he's using the very lame excuse of "it's a game" to continue doing it. Just awful. And honestly, a wee bit skeevy.
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Virtual Wives
Oh I read the article too.
It does seem pretty sad, this particular guy lives in a fake world instead of doing whatever he can to make his real one interesting. One where he's hot, got a hot wife and he's rich and won't ever get sick or die.
Though, if I was the wife, that computer would have been thrown out the window by now. If the TV has to go too, fine, because that's the crux of his argument, I spend all my time in a virtual world and you watch TV, it's totally equal hobbies! He's addicted and doing all that he can to justify the addiction, I don't think the virtual wife is really the main problem though. It's that he doesn't want to face real life when he spent 10 hours building a property.
I would definetly have a conversation about how yes, aging sucks ass. Getting diabetes and having gall surgery sucks ass, but you can either make your older life interesting by traveling and finding hobbies to do with your real wife, or you can sit inside everysingle day and slowly waste away while pretending you are living.
This is one reason why I don't visit chat rooms and don't play role playing games. Reading is quite enough, beyond that I like real people and real things.
And I'm only here now because I can't freaking sleep!