Letters to the Editor
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Of course men need to communicate, but that doesn't excuse ANYONE from deciding they no longer need to
In every example given, the man made a promise to do something.
How can his giving a promise and failing to keep it be blamed on the person to whom he made the promise? Couldn't he - here's a thought - have communicated, instead of making and then breaking a promise? Said, "I don't know how to fix a sink, you do it? I don't have time, do it yourself?" or even "I'm too lazy to fix the sink, and besides you're the one who uses it so it doesn't inconvenience me, so fix it yourself?"
Or is communication only required from women?
So the examples get more and more tortured. The man promised. then the man was an expert. and so on.
If you have promised to achieve something by a deadline at work, how do you feel when your BOSS, your boss, not your partner, assigns it to someone else, and when you ask why, your boss says, "well you had promised but I knew you weren't going to get it done on time so I assigned it to someone else."
If the man is making promises to you and not acting on them, maybe you should have a real discussion with him about why that might be. Maybe it's football. Maybe he's being inconsiderate. Maybe he is distracted. Maybe he needs a part. Maybe he doesn't know where to start. Maybe he felt pressured into saying yes. Maybe he has tasks that he is doing that he feels take priority. Maybe he is tired. Maybe you've been nagging. Maybe he is worried about starting because he doesn't know if he can do it right. Or he would like some help starting or cleaning up. Or he is worried about in what way you are going to badmouth his accomplishments at the end. (YOU MADE A BIG MESS!) I don't know.
But I suspect you wouldn't like it if your BOSS, not just your partner behaved in this manner towards you at work without discussing the unilateral decisions.
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If the man is making promises to you and not acting on them, maybe you should have a real discussion with him about why that might be. Maybe it's football. Maybe he's being inconsiderate. Maybe he is distracted. Maybe he needs a part. Maybe he doesn't know where to start. Maybe he felt pressured into saying yes. Maybe he has tasks that he is doing that he feels take priority. Maybe he is tired. Maybe you've been nagging. Maybe he is worried about starting because he doesn't know if he can do it right. Or he would like some help starting or cleaning up. Or he is worried about in what way you are going to badmouth his accomplishments at the end. (YOU MADE A BIG MESS!) I don't know.
So it IS the woman's sole responsibility to initiate communication. If she doesn't have a conversation with him about why he's not keeping promises, it's her fault. But it's never his fault that he made a promise and he's not keeping it, and it's never his responsibility to tell his wife that he's watching a game, he's distracted, needs a part (can this hypothetical man drive to the DIY store?), doesn't know where to start, is doing something else, is tired, etc.
In all these cases, it's the responsibility of the woman to figure out what the problem is and the man has no responsibility either to keep the promise or the first place or to tell his wife on his own without prompting why he didn't.
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Congratulations deering, you have successfully put up a straw man, married him, and defeated him
Yes deering, your example shows you can construct an example in which you are always right.
But not all men are like your strawman.
And presumably you are married/boyfriended to an actual person, not just one made of straw. And a person you would like to have repeated interactions with, and not just a one time transaction.
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Brightstar...
I'm so happy you posted back to me! Seriously, I would've been very disappointed if my post hadn't drawn out of the woodwork at least one of the rats that infest this place.
Rhedd is the perfect example of the German citizen who gladly took orders from the Nazis instead of standing up for justice.
You want to explain to me how being decent to women (read: other human beings) equates, in your mind, to being a Nazi sympathizer? Ah, don't bother, I guess I understand. It's because you feel so terribly oppressed and abused by the big mean women, right?
When they start building gas chambers for asshole men, then I'll worry. (Because I have suspicions I'm an asshole.) But hey, you mentioned Nazis, which of course makes your statements instantly more impressive, regardless of logic.
I'm sure someone has probably told you this before, Brightstar, but you need therapy more than you need to be posting here.
Face facts. Women are not all evil bitches out to make your life miserable. Rather, you are a reprehensible individual that nobody would want as a mate if you paid them.
I know, I know, you had a scary, domineering mother that demanded that a horrible, primitive, disfiguring rite be performed on your poor, infant boy-bits, and the resulting complications have colored every opinion you've had about women since.
Know what's ironic? The reason you never get laid isn't because you have a teeny, broken dick. A woman who you chat up in your local bar doesn't have any way of knowing that.
The reason you never get laid is because you have issues with yourself, and every single word that comes out of your mouth drips with bitter venom. Nobody, and I mean nobody, with an ounce of self-respect would give you anything that you wanted.
So I understand women are ultimately incapable of generosity towards men, that they are terminally navel gazing narcissists. I understand this. THIS DOES NOT MAKE IT RIGHT.
It's always interesting how men like you can keep a straight face while asking why all the stupid, piece-of-shit bitches won't put out for them, because they're such nice guys.
Riiight.
I've told you already, but just to make sure you remember, here's the secret:
Women don't hate all men. Women hate YOU in particular, because you are an unbearable ass.
Heck, I'm a guy, and I don't like you.
Women here are starting to hate all guys, just because they hate you so much. Now that's ironic!
I guess when you haven't had it in a decade or so, it's easy to think of sex as some magical thing that forces men like me to do things we otherwise wouldn't, but the fact is I'm nice to women because I like them, not because of sex.
I'll even freely admit that I'm not nearly as nice to women that aren't nice, any more than I'm nice to unpleasant guys. Know what? I still get to be nice to women, because (SURPRISE) most women are nice to me. Gee... how does that happen?
All you've ever done here is make strangers think that men really are unmitigated, poisonous, hate-filled jackasses. This makes me seriously wonder where the moderation on this site is, but regardless, you aren't going to be allowed to be the unchallenged representative of males here, anymore.
Seriously, consider taking up a different hobby. You'd probably be happier.