Letters to the Editor
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Nagging can sometimes be a form of abuse. Let's solve the problem right now.
Example #1
"Dear, you said you were going to fix the sink this weekend."
"Dear, you said you were going to fix the sink last weekend."
"Dear, you said you were going to fix the sink last month."
Solution to nagging: "Dear, since you didn't get around to the sink, I called the plumber. The bill is $330."
As you see, nagging can be unnecessary. I tell all my women friends who complain about the things their husband's don't do to just hire it done if they are not able to do it themselves.
Example #2
Poor communication via nagging:
"This is your weekend to do the laundry."
"Are you going to do the laundry?"
"It is 10pm on a Sunday night. What about the laundry?"
Better conversation:
Him: "Why don't I have any clean underwear?"
Her: "I don't know. Did you wash any?"
Him: "How come you have clean underwear?"
Her: "I washed mine."
Him: "Didn't you wash any of mine."
Her: "It wasn't my responsibility."
I agree. Nagging can sometimes be abusive. Moreover, it is a waste of time and energy for the nagger. That is why I never nag. I like my solutions much better, don't you?