Letters to the Editor
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Here's the thing...
>The alternative being: pick up a book and a wrench and do it yourself and stop nagging your husband to pick up a book and a wrench and do it for you.<
Look, there are men who regard house repair as "their" domain, much as there are women who regard cleaning as "their" exclusive thing. Said men want to do all the repairing themselves--or they think doing it themselves is cheaper. Result--you wind up with a batch of things breaking down; guy only doing one or two repairs--or none. That's not so bad if it's a light in a seldom-used room or something minor. But it's bad news when guy takes that attitude towards every repair. You wind up with chores grinding to a halt because the drain is plugged up or the washing machine won't work. And it's insult to injury when the guy doesn't want you to call in a repairperson. He'll swear up and down he'll get it fixed "next week;" he'll "forget" to call the repairperson; he'll find a thousand reasons to not get the repair done instead of just fixing the damm thing. And if you go ahead and call the repairperson and get it fixed, guy will sulk or complain about the cost or find some other passive-aggressive way to take out his anger on you...even though the problem is solved. What AKA Smith is saying is that if a guy doesn't want to repair stuff, that's fine. But he has no right to play games and sulk if you need to get something fixed. If it has to be done, it has to be done--and as someone noted earlier, the earlier you do it, the less damage and expense you have to deal with later.