Letters to the Editor
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Of course men need to communicate, but that doesn't excuse ANYONE from deciding they no longer need to
In every example given, the man made a promise to do something.
How can his giving a promise and failing to keep it be blamed on the person to whom he made the promise? Couldn't he - here's a thought - have communicated, instead of making and then breaking a promise? Said, "I don't know how to fix a sink, you do it? I don't have time, do it yourself?" or even "I'm too lazy to fix the sink, and besides you're the one who uses it so it doesn't inconvenience me, so fix it yourself?"
Or is communication only required from women?
So the examples get more and more tortured. The man promised. then the man was an expert. and so on.
If you have promised to achieve something by a deadline at work, how do you feel when your BOSS, your boss, not your partner, assigns it to someone else, and when you ask why, your boss says, "well you had promised but I knew you weren't going to get it done on time so I assigned it to someone else."
If the man is making promises to you and not acting on them, maybe you should have a real discussion with him about why that might be. Maybe it's football. Maybe he's being inconsiderate. Maybe he is distracted. Maybe he needs a part. Maybe he doesn't know where to start. Maybe he felt pressured into saying yes. Maybe he has tasks that he is doing that he feels take priority. Maybe he is tired. Maybe you've been nagging. Maybe he is worried about starting because he doesn't know if he can do it right. Or he would like some help starting or cleaning up. Or he is worried about in what way you are going to badmouth his accomplishments at the end. (YOU MADE A BIG MESS!) I don't know.
But I suspect you wouldn't like it if your BOSS, not just your partner behaved in this manner towards you at work without discussing the unilateral decisions.