Letters to the Editor
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No Shit. Since I am a feminist and AKA Smith and you are apparently not, I know that women can do this
I know women can fix the plumbing, that's why I asked AKA Smith if she hadn't left out an alternative.
The alternative being: pick up a book and a wrench and do it yourself and stop nagging your husband to pick up a book and a wrench and do it for you.
But here is what wanna be feminist AKA Smith says:
Example #1
"Dear, you said you were going to fix the sink this weekend."
"Dear, you said you were going to fix the sink last weekend."
"Dear, you said you were going to fix the sink last month."
Solution to nagging: "Dear, since you didn't get around to the sink, I called the plumber. The bill is $330."
As you see, nagging can be unnecessary. I tell all my women friends who complain about the things their husband's don't do to just hire it done if they are not able to do it themselves.
Why is the women nagging the husband if she could do it herself? What is the husband who is no expert going to do that the woman can't do on her own?
If your sense of priority differs from that of your husbands, why nag about it? DO IT YOURSELF. If you don't want to do it yourself, why do you think your husband wants to do it? If your sense of your abilities at doing this leads you to nagging someone else to do it for you, why are you blaming your husband for procrastinating?
If you have the money to hire someone, hire someone.
But if you don't have the money and you do have the time and your husband doesn't want to do it, then as a couple, come to a decision and a timeline and get it done.
But stop the nagging.
And stop blaming the husband for your reluctance to pick up a wrench. And stop blaming the husband for his not having the same sense of priorities that you do. And stop blaming the husband for his having some anxiety that keeps him from doing this work when you have a very similar anxiety.
Stop your abuse. And stop blaming the victim for somehow causing your abuse.