Letters to the Editor
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I don't know what the answer is but I know for sure one thing it isn't
and that is to try and solve things by insisting that men and women are or should be or think alike.
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Sexually Aggressive Women?
"Her main argument seems to be that women -- the gatekeepers of sexuality -- have carelessly thrown their legs wide open, offering free entry to any and every guy who crosses their path. This rewriting of the mating ritual has left men mystified over what it means exactly to be a man. "
Whaaaat??? Where are these women??? I keep reading about all these sexually aggressive women but in my adult life I've never encountered any, well not counting the woman who was old enough to be my mother (and not half as attractive as mom) who offered me a blowjob in my office when I was 25 (I declined as I was her boss and she was very drunk at the time, and in any case I wasn't turned on by her at all). Is my luck just that terrible or am I just not rich enough, muscular enough, attractive enough or whatever? Oh, wait, it's the social anxiety and lack of sufficient self-esteem to try initiating anything with women I'm attracted to that do me in. Alas.
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Think about it
offering free entry to any and every guy who crosses their path. This rewriting of the mating ritual has left men mystified over what it means exactly to be a man.
If one actually thinks about the above statement, one realizes how LUDICROUS it really is.
'free entry to ANY guy'?- any HOT or rich guy maybe. But I nor any of my average male friends come across these types of women..ever.
'rewriting of the mating ritual'- is another ludicrosity. The pendulum swung the other way for the millionth time since homo sapiens first walked the planet. This boast sounds more like a nad grabbing ego eruption by women than anything to me. I suppose it makes them feel sexier to boast that fofr the first time in history women are chasing men. Which leads back to statement one, some men have always had available women fawning over them. If there is any anxiety among men about women offering themselves up, it is because it happens so rarely to men that men are not used to it, to taking advantage of the offer. I know when a girl VERY OCCASIONALLY has offered herself to me, I had no clue how to even approach the situation. Do I just grab her head and kiss her? Do I offer to take her to my place? How does one go about actually moving forward a lead made by a woman? And why do they not teach this in school?
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it's a total lie that women have become less picky
there's a whole bunch of politically motivated lying going on from various points on the political and cultural spectrum but no matter how much of it happens the male half of the population knows the truth (not that what men know matters much).
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The term 'gender confused' is insulting too
This implies that if only boys knew what was good for them, they would stick to their predetermined (by feminists) narrow gender roles.
If women can be weak and vulnerable or strong and assertive, nurturing and destroying (in abortion, for instance), sensual and sassy, why can't men?
Are men STUCK by women in the role of sacrificial lamb forever? Why don't women get off their throne and do the dirty work men do? Is that why men are suddenly called 'gender confused'? Because if men quit doing it, women might be forced to step up to the plate instead? And why is that so offensive?
Maybe it is after all the age of gender free-for-all like feminists originally claimed they wanted. Maybe boys WANT to go around in flouncy airy skirts. Why is this so offensive? Are women's DNA to blame for why men AND ONLY MEN are forced to be stuck in narrow predefined gender roles?
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Misguided
As a college educated, 24 year old woman with a good career track I have to say that I completely disagree with you.
You totally misconstrued this article. Stepp is not saying that she thinks intelligent working women are the cause of men's misfortune. She is simply putting forth the notion
that women have prospered, men have not, and we need to think about the issue and it's ramifications.
I was always taught by my parents to have the man ask you on a porper date, pay for it, then escort you home without expecting anything. I can't find these men!!!
They are all playing X-Box or watching porn in their parent's basement! I have yet to find a man within a 5 year age gap of me that is as motivated, ambitious, or as intelligent as myself. Oh and I went to a state school and work in television news, so it's not like I'm a Harvard Law grad looking for a Rhodes Scholar.
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if what you say is true
wouldn't the males have to be even bigger stupider losers than they already apparently appear to be to even think of trying to take charge or show initiative in the situation? Let alone pay for it, with what? (unless they LIKE being humiiated, which is fine if you are into that, actually given the circumstances that's probably a pretty convenient fetish to have at this time)
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Blame Yourr Fellow Women
I was always taught by my parents to have the man ask you on a porper date, pay for it, then escort you home without expecting anything. I can't find these men!!!
Your fellow women have turned this ritual into a humiliating joke. Blame them.
Also, your fellow women do hand out sex and affection freely to the biggest most CONVINCING playas, so no sane guy bothers to date anymore. Blame them.
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SoCal Sex fusion... I think it could be quasi-enviromental....physiological, but...er....quite fun....
I have a bet with my son's friend Kyle. He is going to San Francisco State in the Fall. He a a long black haired, langourously draped lounger. I bet him if he turns gay I win $50., and if he does not, I lose 50 bucks.
He is tall and has long jet black hair, and is pale skinned, and wears eye makeup under the eyes. He wears tight tailored clothes. He does not act world weary; he is world weary.
Perhaps if one is a designer type, this sort of exploration of the feminine side is thrilling? Like your first joint or your first sex....a whiff of the forbidden.....
I can appreciate that stance. I remember my masculine days. I thought I was macho.
I would jump on a wild horse and ride.....I would study to become a bullfighter....every new love conquest was another notch on my belt....drinking, carousing in TJ by myself...singing in Spanish in bars.....dressed in leather or jeans....waking up in strange turquoise colored rooms as an antonio bandaras lookalike smiled and asked about breakfast....wow...those days of drunkingly singing on the top of cars,(in Spanish), with five federales aiming long guns at my head....because I was embracing my masculine side, hahaha.....see there can be a downside.....silver scorpins on my black cowboy hat....badass bodaciousness....with world class boobies involved, of course.....BUT DUDES!!!!
everyone is confused yes, in socal, yes, BUT....erotocism is an art.....not a attitude, or a pose....where was I going with this....ah yes....no harder to be a dude than a woman....the tension of romance and the highest eroticism needs the constraints of structure to flourish in the dance....I indulge my masculine side as a different instrument in the orchestra.....we just need the lightness and playfulness. The seriousness out, out I say!
My favorite moment was when I got a certain PGA top golfer full sails and spinnakers out, sheets to the wind, and we completely exchanged masculine for feminine. It was a walk on the wild side....and he fully embraced it. It was more than an adventure....morphing can be an exhilarating adventure my worthy dudes,,,,just hang on!
"I am you and you are he and he is we and we are all together, I am the Walrus." The Beatles.
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