Letters to the Editor
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This will be like lower back tatooes...
Once upon a time only slutty girls had them, now find me a girl my age (late 20's/early thirties) that doesn't have one. When the last of the uptight boomers finally gives up their jobs, being naked on the internet will be about as scandalous as the tatoo.
This young woman could have a wonderful career for the ACLU or any women's rights organization...and if she doesn't get accepted for the big paying corporate jobs, in the long run that's probably in her best interest.
And incidentally, Michael Sullivan...between your posts on this subject and on Cary's Porn Letter I have determined that you are either
A) not actually a man
B) Trying to get laid with the sensitive angle, which unless you are pretty, doesn't actually work.
OR
C) The most P-whipped, hen-pecked man I've ever seen.
A woman's point of view on sex and relationships is not automatically right simply because she is a woman. There are two sides to any debate, and there is no grand arbiter to determine which side is actually right. You've ceeded the moral high ground on the basis of gender, either simply because you've been told to, or as a doomed-to-failure ruse.
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Brooklyn Hoosier: wrong on all 3 accounts
But it's nice to know you have
a) obviously a lot of free time to ponder such things
b) regardless of your amount of free time you still draw the wrong conclusions
AND
c) your limited options say more about you than you realize.
Have a nice day.
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P.S.
I know lots of women in your age range who not only do not have tramp stamps and other tattoos, but actually know how to spell 'tattoos.' Perhaps there is a correlation between intelligence and tattoos?
Thanks for providing anecdotal evidence.
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This is just sad...
Okay, we are the only two people still posting to this, and there's a good chance you aren't even going to read this Mr. Sullivan but...
I could have slapped my letter into Word and spell checked it, but I didn't want to waste the time on a posting to a blog. My occassional spelling mishaps don't keep me from having a fairly succesful career as a writer, so I'm not going to sweat it too much. And I notice that it is always the most anal and joyless of posters who actually think that they have really zinged someone by pointing out their typos. Way to go, you caught me on the improper pluralization of a word that ends in two vowels. Clearly I am an imbecile.
I'm also not the one labeling women who made a mildly risque choice in their youth as bearers of "Tramp Stamps". And I'm not the one who has any problem with this young law school student choosing to appear naked on film (Why is being naked so horrible, exactly?). You can continue to think of yourself as refined and enlightened, and I will continue to think of you as someone who is afraid of female sexuality and the gate keeper of the dying notion of Victorian propriety.
Thanks.
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Hey, BH, I answered you in another forum...in case you missed it
Some people just have no clue.
Someone in another thread chose to call me "pussy-whipped" because I had "ceded the moral high ground automatically to women." Same person figured maybe I was a woman, since I was so "sensitive." Imagine that. Someone chooses mature, thoughtful responses to questions of intimacy and either their sex or their sexuality must be in doubt.
On the contrary. The issue of what two (or occasionally more) consenting adults do with each other is not in any way about "moral high ground." It's about respect for each other's needs and desires, not about "proving" what I want you to do with me/to me/for me is moral, or legal, or "something I can get from someone else if you won't do it for me, biotch."
Of course, if you've reduced sex to a transaction and your best examples and experiences are with porn, I can see why you may be having trouble convincing your female partner to take it up the ass from your best friend while you video her and call her a nasty slut...let alone maybe get a handjob after the third date.
In the immortal words of John Cleese as Prof. Humphrey:
"What’s wrong with a kiss, boy? Hmm? Why not start her off with
a nice kiss? You don’t have to go leaping straight for the clitoris like a bull at a gate. Give her a kiss, boy."
I'd encourage you porn fans to spend a lot less time defending "erotica" and paying more attention to communication with your lovers. Even you misplaced hoosiers. You'd be surprised at how much farther that will get you.
-- michael sullivan
There you go. I now leave this kennel to Lassie. Congratulations. You have inherited the wind.
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Since I didn't post in any other forum, I'm curious why you decided to respond there...
...but whatever dude.
I'm happily in a 3+ year relationship, and have basically been in happy monogomous relationships since college, so I'm not exactly living the life of quiet sexual desperation you describe.
And at no point did I ever make any statements about anal sex, so I'm not sure what that was all about.
I just don't think you should judge people for having a different set of values than you. That's a good lesson to take from a an ex-Hoosier who lived in a land of judgemental fundies...just cause you don't picket an abortion clinic doesn't mean you aren't a judgemental prick.
All I was saying was that A) I don't think this Law Student did much that was wrong other than perhaps exercising some lack of perspective. B) I think the hysterical reaction to porn is idiotic and especially troubling coming from the so called left and finally C) your "I'm so much more evolved because I don't have these petty dirty concerns" might as well be St. Paul railing against the evils of the flesh. Thank you, but I've had my fill of that additude. Enjoy life, enjoy sex, enjoy women, and leave the high horse back in Junior High with your copy of the Scarlet Letter.