The thing is, female sexual dysfunction (as far as a viagra equivilant goes) was cured in I belive the 1970's with the invention of Atroglide.

The mechanics of sex for men and women have nothing to to with physcial responses. For men it is the blood pressure in one part of their bodies, for women it is the lubrication produced by their equivilant organ.

All the Viagra in the world can not make you enjoy sex if you don't like who your partner is, the same is true for Astroglide.

Women and men while being raped will often orgasm. This isn't because of deep repressed desires to submit, but because the physical act of sex is largely mechanical. If you stimulate the right nerves, no matter how uninterested in the act you are, you will receive pleasure responses.

Esentially, Viagra is no more a male sexual dysfunction drug than astroglide. It may allow closeted gay men to make love to their wives more frequently, but it doesn't inspire either attraction or desire, it just inspires erection.

Trying to find a pharma answer to female sexuality is pointless, because we haven't found any true aphrodesiac that is universally effective.

You can use spanish fly, vitamin E, or old milwalkee, they have all been used by people over the years for great effect in getting in the mood. But the mood is internal, and is no differnt for men than for women, despite what the advertising claims.

29 percent reported that they sometimes start a sexual encounter before desire even registers.

But here's the interesting -- if not surprising -- finding: women who reported this somewhat backwards approach to sex (summoning desire mid-act) were also more likely to report sexual problems.

Hmm, could that be because they're having sex not out of desire, but out of a feeling of obligation? Stop the presses!! You mean that maybe, just maybe, this means that it's not their bodies or brains that are the problem, but their socialization and/or powerlessness in a relationship? Or...gasp...the (un)desirability of their partner? No, that couldn't be right...

>Or...gasp...the (un)desirability of their partner?<

She chose her partner, so who's fault is THAT?!?

Or maybe she loves her partner, but she's just fucking tired. It happens.

Hmm, could that be because they're having sex not out of desire, but out of a feeling of obligation? Stop the presses!! You mean that maybe, just maybe, this means that it's not their bodies or brains that are the problem, but their socialization and/or powerlessness in a relationship? Or...gasp...the (un)desirability of their partner? No, that couldn't be right...

Sounds like the same problem most of the married men in my neighborhood have. I guess this isn't so uniquely a feminine problem.

More sexual hype! Now everyone will jump to read this cause SEX is mentioned. Why so much interest?

I would gather to say that the vast majority of men and women haven't a clue as to what is really going on in the sexual experience even with themselves! Why else read these articles with such rabid drooling interest?

At least this article spoke truth namely that no one knows nothing.

The way sex is experienced is a continuum for men and women and no one way is correct including sensitivity of the body.

But the mass media hype machine makes sex into something so much more important then it truly is.

It is natural, it can be enjoyable even blissful and it can be disgusting and numbing. Some people get into it deeply and others feel detached. Some people like to "hook-up" and feel cool about using sickening hip hop terms like bootie call.

Some men and women only want sex in the context of love.

A wide continuum exists of sexual desire, experience and body reactions exist.

The only wrong view is hurting others.

but what does this mean in practice. Most of the time what is meant is that nobody should be pressured to do something they don't want to, which is fine, but if you also include getting LESS than what you want in the category of hurt then the issue becomes more compicated. I predict that it is going to get more and more difficult to get people to really commit emotionally to a partner long term unless their prospective partner is rabidly horny for them and stays that way for a good long test. Since things always decline this is the only hope of anything being maintained over the reasonably long term.

is not so alien. Sometimes one is enthusiastic for the experience even before one feels sexy. This works for both male and female.

This whole subject of male and female sexuality has interested me my whole life.

I think the core problem with women and their sexuality is that too few women explore their own bodies enough to know what gets them going and what gets them off.

This is exacerbated both by a puritanical culture that tells you it is bad to touch yourself coupled with the busy busy nature of school and work life these days where everyone is too damn tired to be interested in exploration of sensuality and sexuality WITHOUT TIME CONSTRAINTS.

Add in that women follow each other like elephants in believing simplistic models of what men supposedly want (big tits, makeup on face, all the other crap women think men want in them) RATHER than following their inner bliss and developing a personality interesting enough to create one's own sexual paradise within and without- one DRIVEN by the women themselves rather than at the mercy of the first playa who can make her wet. Somehow, women expect that if only they snag the right playa type guy, the sex will be perfect, when in reality becoming more non sexually intimate with a compatible chemistry laden male is more important in developing greater and greater bliss over time. - is the problem lack of creativity in women too?

Is the problem also that men are not taught how to be desirable to women? That only the guys whose dads are irresponsible playa bastards become the ones trained to pile on the notches on the bedpost? This anonymous sex seems to rule in America more and more at the expense of slow, sensual sexual play with a couple who know each other well.

Women seem to play so many games in the dating world, holding back sex as a tool of manipulation, that it is not surprising the model that is emerging is one where the expert playas get all the action and the rest of the chump frustrated men become more and more beggars, not knowing what it is that is not allowing them to be more successful lovers and more sucessful men.

Women doing this also makes sex into something LESS THAN what it truly is, which is that sex is the divine infinite bliss of merging with our creator thru sharing our bodies with another or with ourselves. God knows I know of too few women who would even understand such concepts or admit to thinking them.

Another tack is what some woman has labeled the 'orgasm diet'. It involves some combination of Omega 3s, chocolate, protein (meats), daily vitamins with magnesium and zinc, and a few other items. Hey, throw in some pot or likker too! The diet sure makes me have more desire and feel looser and more sexy, and I'm a guy!

Also, avoid restaurant and prepared foods- they contaiin up to some combination of 15,000 compounds that do not have to be listed on the ingredient label- you can thank your government for allowing such illicit adulteration of the food supply, but blame your lack of libido on it, you can be sure.

The problem is not lack of a drug or other solution. For instance, mild electric shocks to the lower spine may trigger mechanical orgasms but they will not make a woman WANT sex or orgasm more.

A creative, open minded, uninhibited woman who eats healthy and is not afraid of being assertive does not have sexual problems, I can guarantee it!