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but what does this mean in practice. Most of the time what is meant is that nobody should be pressured to do something they don't want to, which is fine, but if you also include getting LESS than what you want in the category of hurt then the issue becomes more compicated. I predict that it is going to get more and more difficult to get people to really commit emotionally to a partner long term unless their prospective partner is rabidly horny for them and stays that way for a good long test. Since things always decline this is the only hope of anything being maintained over the reasonably long term.